Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Chick asks advice columnist if she should sleep with celebrity cad

MatureDJ

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I found this interesting:

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/..._a_celebrity_cad_should_i_sleep_with_him.html

I met a celebrity through my volunteer work, and we have flirted ever since we met. I'm young, unattached, and enjoy the occasional one night stand. This man has made it clear he wants to wine and dine me and then take me back to his place, and I'd take him up on the offer—I’m wildly attracted to his intensity and his passion for this cause—except for his tumultuous past. You can't believe everything you read, but he has a pretty dodgy reputation, and his outbursts have sent him to jail before. He has always been kind to me and the people around me, but it's also difficult to ignore how poorly he's treated women in the past. Would I be a bad person if I threw caution to the wind and had a brief fling with this person? I'm not interested in his money, his fame, or having a future with him.
It seems that this chick's hamster inclinations are to sleep with this double alpha male (i.e., both a celebrity AND a bad boy), but her responsible side is against it. This sounds like the typical woman's thought process - emotions to do the thing that makes her gina tingle, but with the thought in the back of her mind that it is against the anti-slut meme that the matriarchy has (or at least had at an earlier time in history) as well as against her long term interests.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She already is 99 percent sure she's gonna F him. She posted the question because she wanted some "You go girl" "Hi-Five" of sorts to get her to 100 percent and to receive absolution for her "sin" ahead of time so she doesn't feel slutty. In short, she wanted "permission" and an "It's ok; do it" pat on the back.

The "Dear A b by" lady gave the token "Use a condom" advice.

But she's definitely gonna raw dog this guy. Mike32ct will bet his last dollar on that.
 
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