"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chick asks advice columnist if she should sleep with celebrity cad

MatureDJ

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I found this interesting:

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/..._a_celebrity_cad_should_i_sleep_with_him.html

I met a celebrity through my volunteer work, and we have flirted ever since we met. I'm young, unattached, and enjoy the occasional one night stand. This man has made it clear he wants to wine and dine me and then take me back to his place, and I'd take him up on the offer—I’m wildly attracted to his intensity and his passion for this cause—except for his tumultuous past. You can't believe everything you read, but he has a pretty dodgy reputation, and his outbursts have sent him to jail before. He has always been kind to me and the people around me, but it's also difficult to ignore how poorly he's treated women in the past. Would I be a bad person if I threw caution to the wind and had a brief fling with this person? I'm not interested in his money, his fame, or having a future with him.
It seems that this chick's hamster inclinations are to sleep with this double alpha male (i.e., both a celebrity AND a bad boy), but her responsible side is against it. This sounds like the typical woman's thought process - emotions to do the thing that makes her gina tingle, but with the thought in the back of her mind that it is against the anti-slut meme that the matriarchy has (or at least had at an earlier time in history) as well as against her long term interests.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She already is 99 percent sure she's gonna F him. She posted the question because she wanted some "You go girl" "Hi-Five" of sorts to get her to 100 percent and to receive absolution for her "sin" ahead of time so she doesn't feel slutty. In short, she wanted "permission" and an "It's ok; do it" pat on the back.

The "Dear A b by" lady gave the token "Use a condom" advice.

But she's definitely gonna raw dog this guy. Mike32ct will bet his last dollar on that.
 
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