"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Chicago Wingman for this weekend?
- Thread starter Intense
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
Chicago is elite. I didn't go downtown b/c we were staying to far out of the city. We went to downtown Naperville and around Northern IL to Mollys. Needless to say I the DJing was quite fun. Executed many cold approaches, some virutally flawless and others far from it. Got a lot of numbers but only two were worthwhile, the others I was just practicing. HB8 and and HB7. I later set up and went on a date with the HB7. Haven't contacted the HB8 yet. Great town, can't wait to come back.
Intense.
k_hectic
Don Juan
I moved recently here, living in Lombard. Any cool bars or clubs other than the ones in Downtown Naperville and North Beach or Rip Rocks?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.