"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This girl was really interested then I asked her out and she flaked... I immediately backed way off, stopped initiating contact, etc. She'd send a text and I'd reply with a short response, much later.

I've been seeing her around town lately and she's all excited to see me, but I've been acting really indifferent - pretty much just smiling, saying what's up, and moving on.

Originally I thought I'd just wait until she tries to iniate plans - seeing as, when I asked her out, she bailed with no counter-offer. But I'm wondering if I'm treating this girl too much like long-term girl or oneitis with going so cold... When it's a new plate who didn't accept a date proposal, do you try asking them out again after a period of indifference or just stay dark until they suggest making plans?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheCWord said:
I asked her out and she flaked...
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She will flake on you again. Her IL won't rise if she has no interest in you, that is why she flaked on you the first time. She had no interest in you. Why bother with her again?
 
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TheCWord said:
do you try asking them out again after a period of indifference ?
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Hell no, if you ask her out again you're DLV'ing yourself and signaling to her that she can jerk you around and disrespect you. Cancel with no counter offer=Next.
 
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Thanks for the reminders, guys. I'll stay away.

Here's a recent development for you, though - was supposed to go out with this girl friend for drinks after work. She asked how I felt about the girl (who i've talked about here) coming along. I said I wasn't in the mood for other people but this girl is staying at friend's house.

I guess I could just cancel on my friend.
 
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I went through the same thing. Asked twice, got 2 shıt excuses, and I moved on. So, I agree with SoSuave. Ask one more time, in a very matter-of-fact kind of way, that you'll be doing XXXX on XXXXday, and if she would like to join you.

Don't expect miracles, you may get a lame excuse, but for your own confirmation, try once more. Keep us posted.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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