Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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check this out...wife has internet affair

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've never been married, but I read that passion almost always dwindles after a few years.

http://www.reuniting.info/science/sex_in_the_brain <That article might help explain why.

I'm sure they've stopped trying to "attract" one another, and failed at keeping the passion alive, so of course one of them is going to get lonely.

Love shouldn't be about keeping someone from what they want to do. She's surely a good friend of his after 15 years; he should be able to set his ego aside, talk about their desires, and remain friends, even after her lies (which are good intentioned, although very disrespectful.) Getting married isn't for life anymore, and doesn't entitle anyone to get unromantic and lazy. It's a ****ty situation, but she's lost attraction to him for a reason (which is discussed in that article.)

It would be best if he could reignite the spark in their marriage and get her interested in him again, but if not, he should open up the relationship or get a divorce.
 
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