"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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check this out...wife has internet affair

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I've never been married, but I read that passion almost always dwindles after a few years.

http://www.reuniting.info/science/sex_in_the_brain <That article might help explain why.

I'm sure they've stopped trying to "attract" one another, and failed at keeping the passion alive, so of course one of them is going to get lonely.

Love shouldn't be about keeping someone from what they want to do. She's surely a good friend of his after 15 years; he should be able to set his ego aside, talk about their desires, and remain friends, even after her lies (which are good intentioned, although very disrespectful.) Getting married isn't for life anymore, and doesn't entitle anyone to get unromantic and lazy. It's a ****ty situation, but she's lost attraction to him for a reason (which is discussed in that article.)

It would be best if he could reignite the spark in their marriage and get her interested in him again, but if not, he should open up the relationship or get a divorce.
 
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