Dr Destruction said:
Do not take the following personally or as a form of bashing. I applaud you for putting yourself out there and cold approaching. This is something that half of self-acclaimed PUAs out there would not do. However, these videos--especially the one above--made me cringe. There are a couple of patterns I noticed in your approaches listed below.
First, there appears to be no purpose in your approaches. You are simply talking to women without any direction. This, in turn, seems to make your targets cringe with feelings of awkwardness. Such feelings are magnified by the blatant use of a video camera, which makes women behave completely different. Not only do they not know what you will do with the footage, but people usually do not like being recorded by strangers. The only rationale that could be operating here is that you could actually be working on your approach anxiety. In that case, these videos would symbolize your "training wheels," which is perfectly fine. None of us started as smooth DJs.
Second, although you did ask some open-ended questions, most of your questions are close-ended, which induce "yes" or "no" responses. And when you are not asking close-ended questions, and your target actually respond--which is good--you cut them right off. Your conversation style communicates nervousness and a significant need to receive approval. You just fire topic after topic without any continuity or reasoning. This approaching style not only confuses your targets but also reinforces their b
itch shields. Ironically, you are sabotaging your own approach.
Third, your ebonic language (i.e., "yo my homeboys are crazy dawgs, ya feel me?") is simply not working. It immediately creates a psychological barrier between you and the target based on the kind of women that you are approaching. That is, you are approaching women who may not find this form of language appealing (e.g., White girls at a seemingly middle-class mall). Perhaps, your approach would work in another scenario or during night game, but does not seem to be working here.
Fourth, you are pedestalizing your targets immediately at the beginning of your approach. I did not see any teasing, qualifiers, kino, or playful conversation taking place. For example, in the video above, you say "oh, man you're like a Miami supermodel. What were you doing there besides stripping and getting paid for it?" This sounds like a failed push-pull attempt. You turbo-charged her value and then collapse it by calling her a stripper, which has value in itself since strippers are women hired strictly based on their looks. I had to close my eyes and ask baby Jesus to strike me with lightning if I ever say this to a woman.
Fifth, you are talking about yourself excessively. A man who is a mystery is a man with the upper hand (assuming you spark attraction with your charm). Talking about yourself should brief when you first approach, telling your target that you noticed her, and then during phone closure. This point works in sync with my first point above: if you in with a purpose of what you want (e.g., an instant date, a shopping helper, a phone number) are more likely to get it.
Now that I have said what you're doing wrong, here is what you can do to correct your mistakes:
-Go in with a purpose (do
not overthink, just know what you want).
-Disguise the camera somehow to reduce reactivity in your targets (this is actually a research finding in psychology. People behave completely different when they know they are being watched. With women's herd-like social mentality, this effect is multiplied threefold).
-Do not mention the camera when you get the new one.
-Ask open-ended questions that other men would not ask. Asking questions about work, school, where your target is from, and the weather right off the bat put the woman in "I have heard this before mode," which increases your chance of rejection.
-Listen to what they respond without cutting them off, use the material she is giving you voluntarily, and steer the conversation in that direction. For example, if she was talking about a wedding, ask about details in the wedding or accuse her of being a party girl. You could do push-pull from here and say "hmmm...it's the innocent looking girls that tend to be the biggest partiers. I don't know if this is going to work out between you and I, [name]."
-Cut the ebonics/ganster talk unless you think your targets will find it appealing
-Do not give so many compliments right off the bat; maker her work for your approval and attention.
-Look away from time to time instead of making her the center of your universe.
-Make the conversation about them. Women love to talk about themselves. Mention how she coordinated her earrings to match her shoes or something. Little things like that will make you stand out immediately, as most men do not notice them.
-Last,
get the number and get out of there without lingering around.
Follow these steps and your game will improve significantly. You are not a bad looking dude and you have confidence to approach women. It is just a matter of making some changes here and there.
Keep being money,
-R
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I liked your interaction with the Indian-looking girl much more. Some of the things I highlighted above are still operating, but overall it went much better than with the Latinas. The Indian girl was smiling a lot, asking questions, trying to talk about you, etc. She even told you that other guys are creepy, subliminally saying that she approves of you. These little signs are what gets you in with women. Read them and use them to your advantage and you will succeed. If you learn anything from this post, make sure you approach in the style that you approached the Indian girl more often.
