"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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My girlfriend went away for 5 weeks after wed only been going out for a month. We didnt even go farther then just like kissing but i cheated on her a week before she gets back. I feel like a ****head. I really like her. What should i do to keep her?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i say kontroller is rite, just 4get abt it
...afterall u liked it wen it was happening, didn't u??
(atleast be honest to urself)
just move on, dont worry abt it
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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No, you keep your mouth shut. Do you think a girl would come out and tell you she cheated on you? It's highly doughtful, unless she wan'ts you to dump her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ya... the problem with keeping quiet is that i felt really bad and told her. ^his is wat happend. This girl friend of mine came over and as a joke started to give me a handjob outside my clothes... and i felt her up and stuff but after like 5 minutes i told her that it was wrong and i couldnt do it and we had to stop. My girlfriend knows this.
 

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but you did it you cant reverse the past move on. If you want to keep your girl dont tell her
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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what happened after you told her?
 

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well
i told her on facebook
and she didnt reply
she signed on msn later
and im like u didnt reply...
and we havent talked in 3 days
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Whoah, bad move my friend!
You should have told her in person. They tell you that advice for a reason, even though it may be harder, there are MANY benefits.
For starters, since you told her on facebook or on MSN, SHE has an option to reply to you or not. If you call her, SHE has the option to say "Oh listen, I have to go." And all three of those instances, you don't know what is going on.
If you saw her in person and explained to her the situation, you could actually see how she reacts and be able to talk to her about it.

So what do you do now? Let it go. If it is anything I have learned about women, it is that the harder you try to get them back, the more it does the total opposite.
 

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you told her on facebook... if you have been going out with this girl for a month you should have called her and told her via phone or had her meet you somewhere
 

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Rejected123 said:
well
i told her on facebook
and she didnt reply
she signed on msn later
and im like u didnt reply...
and we havent talked in 3 days
What did everyone just get finished telling you?
I.A.F.Y.B. said:
No, you keep your mouth shut. Do you think a girl would come out and tell you she cheated on you? It's highly doughtful, unless she wants you to dump her.
Stop thinking like this.
girl_in_a_boy_forum said:
She deserves to know.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stuff like that, if said must be said in person.

And if all you did with your "gf" after a month is kiss her what do you think constitutes cheating?
 

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Sounds like you need to next the GF and make the other one a FB.
 

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She gave me a hand job. She's still away so i couldnt have met her. Ive decided that since i stopped in the middle, she should be complimented. If she wants to be stupid about it and ignore me and not reply thats her problem. I can get better. Thanx guys for the advice
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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