"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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cheated and lies on gf..will she ever trust me?

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ok..i cheated (just a lil kiss not even makin out) and lied about it to my gf...she was scared i would do that and i told her i wouildnt but i did anyway...we had a logn talk and i told her this time it really WONT happen again..and i kno i wont do it again..

but shes still worried i will and always brings it up to me and is having a hard time believing me now...

do u think she'll ever trust me again?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She trusts you less, but you have raised the stakes now.

She will start questioning her emotional investment in you.

She may start the "Acting Phase" on your ass...


Watch out.

Keep your eyes open.


Anyway, whatever negatives you feel or will experience, realize this, you earned it.

You made your choice.

She will eventually make hers.
Don't blame her if it doesn't suit you.
 
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The question is, will you ever trust her again? I can't trust most women as far as I can throw them.
 
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whats the 'Acting Phase".??..she repeatedly tells me she wants to trust me again but she doesnt wanna get hurt again
 
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ill, the "Acting Phase" is when a woman goes Method Acting on your ass and on the outside she's nicee and lovey dovey to you, but on the inside she's cutting her losses. She is cutting off her emotional ties to you.

In other words, fake Out Ward appearance, but inside, she's disconnecting from you.

Believe me, she won't be hurt by you again.


She will fool you that you did. But she really didn't care anymore.
She may just cheat on you, and never tell you about it.

Then she will act like "Oh, it's OK..." when/if you mess up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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does she call you a "b@stard" or "beast" from time to time?...if not, I wouldn't worry about it.
 
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I did the same thing after the first week of officially dating my girlfriend. Now we're pretty good, it was about a month and a half ago. But from time to time when she gets really really drunk, she always mentions it saying I still like that girl I kissed blah blah. Girls typically get hurt, not because of what you physically did, but emotionally/mentally. Girls connect with you emotionally/mentally, and if you're spending time with other girls, or are better friends with other girls, then she may get hurt by it. Cut off all contact with that girl you kissed and make an effort to show that you still care about this girl and you want things to work. Hopefully things will work out for you.
 
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Poonani Maker said:
I can't trust most women as far as I can throw them.
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Ain't that the truth roof.


I never understand guys who go out with other girls and then "volunteer" the information to the gf, without the gf even asking.

Why would you do that? If the gf is old or ugly and you want out then go ahead but otherwise, what's the point?

How does it help her and your relationship?
 
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Women forgive but they never forget. Of course she will not trust you but why would you care? She most likely didnt trust you before so don't make such a big deal out of it.

This can be a good thing. She now realizes she can be replaced quickly. She mishaves and you may just run off with someone else. Play on her insecurities, don't let her emotional outburst affect you. Why you think this is bad thing is beyond me.
 
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She will NEVER trust you again and it'll always come up in conversations and be used as leverage against you when she wants something.
Its over forever with her, sure she may stick around for a while due to low self esteem but its downhill all the way.

I suggest moving on and learning about self-control and respect.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Monkey said:
She will NEVER trust you again and it'll always come up in conversations and be used as leverage against you when she wants something.
Its over forever with her, sure she may stick around for a while due to low self esteem but its downhill all the way.

I suggest moving on and learning about self-control and respect.
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disagree...time heals all. HoWEVER, in the meantime, you are now her puppet. everything you do will be used against you. fasten your seatbelt, your in for a bumpy ride
 
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yeah.. those advice really works. it also happen to. believed me man, if the girl has a high interest on you , not it will going to sink. all you have to do is learn to let go and open the other opportunity.. :)
 
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