"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Chasing the wrong types of women

jack knife

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I am attracted to the women I can't have, or that I shouldn't have.

Currently? An 18-year old highschool dropout with recurring ex-issues.

Instead I could have this other girl who's a few years older, much more mature, and is well on her way to a successful career. We get along well and there is sexual tension but I have no desire.

I know the logical choice but I am being an idiot.

Arrg!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MAVER1CK

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ahh.. sexual attraction is truely.. a jackknife.


What is your goal here?

I dont like helping people make up the whole "What should I do" thing. I like guiding people to their ultimate goal.
 

jack knife

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I already know what I should do... and I already know what I'm probably going to do.

I am just having trouble understanding myself and why I would want to make the wrong choice.

So really, I'm looking for other people with simular situations and hopefully insight on the human psyche and why men would make bad choices like these.
 

MAVER1CK

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which is hotter? the 18 year old?

She might also appeal to you more because you have the tendencey to want to help misfortunate girls. Try and fix them... this is common with men.
 

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sometimes i think women aren't the only ones in it for the drama. i think her issues are more interesting to you then the mature girl who got her sh#t together. its like a girl who says all the guys i date turn out to be jerks. the simple answer is, that is what she is attracted to. same thing goes for you. a woman thinks with emotion and how a guy makes her feel. you are thinking emotionally because logic would light the way of who would be the better choice. logically,the mature woman would be the better choice for the long term. if your looking for drama and a short term bang then the 18yr old would be the choice the emotional guy would take. i mean no offence by saying your thinking like a woman because why would you pick someone who is flatout damaged compared to someone that is stable.

the only thing these damaged women will do, is slowly wreck havoc on your how you perceive women in the long run and then you'll wonder why women suck when you had perfect opportunity with someone good.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I hear ya bro I do the same thing. I currently have oneitis for a girl who displays little interest in me - but of course just enough to keep me infatuated.

Some girls are like beer. Good in moderation but if you end up thinking about them all the time your emotional life goes down the tube pretty quickly.

My advice would be to start setting some limits with your girl and if she doesn't conform move on. This is the plan I'm taking with my girl... because I don't want to be a lapdog.
 
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