chasing girl with boyfriend

[zemaj]

Firstly, I have not even spoke to this girl. I just see her in this bar that I go to most weekends. And although she is with her boyfriend, there is HEAVY eye contact between me and her. I badly want to talk to her, not neccesarily to attempt to steal her from this guy, but I just want to see what shes like, and maybe even be friends with her. theres just something about her which i find compelling!

So, how can I realistically talk to her if shes with her b.f. should I wait until he leaves (goes to toilet) or just try talking to both of them or what!?

argh. very tough situation!

replies appreciated.

 

[Dergz]

Its kinda difficult the situation u in but hey, where theres a will theres a way right?
Just go over there, say smething like 'Hey wassup, my name's X, d'yu mind if i join yu guys for a chat?' or something like that, then talk to both of them about watever subject yu suppose might be interesting, during the convo try n pick up any subtle signs of interest from the gurl, be the one to end the interaction, not them. When yu leave, make it look like u wanna go do something else - "Hey nice talkin to ya, gotta go check out my crew over there' , that way it won't look like yu came to the club just to chat to them, knowwatimsayin?

 

[Tomatoes]

Are you sure they are an item?

If so....

I wouldnt go when hes there.....

1. Third wheel.
2. Its not easy to pull with her BF right next to her. You are more likely to get a negative response. (Fear of loss and so forth)

You could do it when he goes to the loo. It will look very cloak and dagger thow. If you want to play it out that way. He goes to the loo. You go over (on your way out) and ask her if she wants to meet up for some drinks sometime. Take number. Get out before hes back.....All good.

The other option is to catch her when shes there on her own. (eg. Waiting for him or something.) Approach...


Just make sure that WHEN you get that magic little opening....you take it. Dont sit back thinking of the ifs and buts......if you do...you will always just be that guy sitting at the other end of the bar wishing you were in that guys seat.

Sarge on..

 

[Dergz]

i dont really dig that approach, makes yu look kinda creepy, goin ova there while they together makes u look ballsy and harmless to both of them, it also saves yu the embarrassment if she doesnt dig yu in that way, knowwatimsayin?

 

[zemaj]

thanks for the advice guys. it is a real tough situation. I think i will use a combination of your advice. and just try and build up some sort of friendship, so's I can approach her whenever, and it not being weird. cheerz

 

[playboy_supreme]

ly do want to waste youe time and energy on this then. go up to the both of them and open with a relationship question. make it up and just look for a responce. if nothing else u will find out if they are in a relationship or not.