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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Chaser Effect after sex

BJP1991

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Hey Everybody,

Like many of you, I have read on the benefits of nofap. In those threads/articles, the Chaser Effect has come up many times, which often leads to relapse.

About once a weekend I will end up having sex with a girl I have been seeing roughly weekly, and the Sunday/Monday after I have super strong urges to PMO, and when I do it turns into a mini-binge for a day or so. In the most recent example(s) for me, the urge to PMO vanishes by say Tuesday morning and then it's smooth sailing after there with no need/desire to PMO.

Obviously, I know I should sack-up and take some cold showers, but what do you guys think about this and have you experienced it before? If I had another girl to just meet up with and do the deed, it would not be an issue, but as a busy young man, I have other things I need to do on Sundays/Mondays typically, so time doesn't really allow.

Any advice or tips from those who are familiar or have been there before? Just curious, and it really isnt a major issue, I don't think, but it's happened a couple weekends in a row now.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This forum is very divided on nofap although I personally belive it to be beneficial.

You need to figure out if you are just horny or using it to escape something.

If you are just horny, have sex more often, if you are escaping something, do the work.
 

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I have the same thing although I don't really see it as a problem. My nob can be red raw from shagging but after my girl has gone home ,the next day I always have a good old wank. After that though, Im usually good untill I have sex again.
I have no idea why I get the urge either. It is weird. It's certainly not through sexual frustration. Maybe it's something to with the instinct to copulate with different females soon after having sex.
As I like to keep fapping to once a week, I'll fap soon after my girls gone so I can spend the rest of the week building my mojo back up. I wouldn't worry about it though.
Moderation in all things dear boy.
 

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Porn is incredibly addictive so perhaps this is the issue.

Anyway, why you won't hit gym instead? PMO is death in the long run, It's turning men into zombies.
once per 2 weeks or 1 would be great.

break of more days than that and u go crazy

less than that and u r slow, lazy, etc
 

BJP1991

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Porn is incredibly addictive so perhaps this is the issue.

Anyway, why you won't hit gym instead? PMO is death in the long run, It's turning men into zombies.

Regarding NoFap - firs two weeks are really difficult, then it gets easier and energy and confidence boost is permanent.
I do hit the gym, daily. Lifting only makes me hornier afterward for a short period of time, but it’s nothing I can’t control. Like I said, the urge disappears after a day or so.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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