Charm in a nutshell

[CHALENGE GUY]

Charm is very simple. It boils down to making another person feel better about themselves when they are in your company. There is nothing more flattering or rare than the undivided attention of another.

It is more important to be interested than interesting.

Here’s a few tips I found in a self growth newletter:

* Be alert for any chance to praise another.

* Be fun to be with.

* Be genuinely concerned about what's going on in the life of the other.

* Suspend your agenda in the interest of the other's.

* Encourage and affirm your friend at every opportunity.

* Listen twice as much as you talk.

* Give genuine compliments, frequently.

* Accept the person as they are and not as you want them to be.

* Ask questions and listen to their answers. There is a difference between prying and being interested.

* Be enthusiastic.

* Be a friend without conditions.

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Speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far.

- Roosevelt

Heretics shall perish. Please read the Bible. It is is a whole vast world of wisdom, beauty, and moral truth.

THE DJ BIBLE

[This message has been edited by CHALENGE GUY (edited 07-09-2001).]

 

[Mental Man]

nice post mate!

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No guts..........NO GLORY

 

[Persuader]

good post, saw that same list in a motivational newletter put out by Mike Moore, and it is well played to post here. It universally applies in many areas of life.

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The man that claims a thing is impossible is often interupted by the man doing it.

 

[Drew]

A word of caution, don't overdo it... I know there's really no overdoing "charm" with girls, however some of the things on the list shouldn't be overdone or might be done wrongly with girls. It's a very easy to deviate a litte from the list and be on your way to being a supplicating nice guy.

 

[CHALENGE GUY]

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