"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Charismatic People to Learn From?

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Vin Diesel is FAR from charismatic.

My vote has to go to Steve Jobs...there's a reason they call him the rockstar of the computer world. Other than Hitler and Castro, he's the only person who can command 100% attention for hours on end...everything he does, the crowd eats up.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Bill Murray
Mike Massey (trick shot pool champion)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ahh the old charisma thread, what is it and who's got it.

Just wondered. Who is charismatic, yet is plain looking, even uglyish, and what is it about them that gives them charisma?

I was thinking of somebody like Ghandi.
 

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mr bean :p
 

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Mother Teresa? Not sure, but she always had a tea towel when you needed one.

It's just that, my bee in my bonnet is you get some right arseholes that are supposedly charismatic, but they are always good looking.

People talk about how you become charismatic, forget it if you are the elephant man.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Reading about guys who are charismatic won't teach you how to be charisma It will simply teach you ABOUT guys who are charismatic.

Movie charisma is fun, but won't work too well in real life, because the people around you aren't programmed to respond with memorized lines.

Most all of your behavior you learn from other people. Your best bet would be to befriend charismatic people and spend a lot of time around them.

Don't outright copy them, but just mirror some of their attitude towards people. Especially strangers. It'll definately do more for you than reading a bio of communists.
 

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Originally posted by Panda 2000
The Beastie Boys
I've been listening to them since I was two years of age (as well as Rage Against the Machine). Girls-they do the dishes. Girls-they do the laundrey. Girls-they **** you.(I added that last line):D

Phineas from A Seperate Peace by John Knowles
 

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The Miles Davis Story

If you want to learn something about charisma, watch
"the miles davis story". You do NOT have to understand / like his music to enjoy this documentary.

There is also some interviews with miles and some of his ladies where you can see how this DJ acts and how this is percieved/described and how their reaction is "justified" by the girls.

Awful artist, awful MAN, awful DVD !!

MoveYourA$$... and your brain will follow
 

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Glad you guys are finally mentioning arnold swarzenegger......Anyone watch that A&E show "See Arnold Run".....that really motivated me, especially the scene where he broke up with his girlfriend unregretably. Arnold is the man

P.S- Vin Diesel??? Someone put that murmering bald idiot to sleep.
 

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John F. Kennedy Jr.

Bill Clinton, on of the coolest things he did was bite his bottom lip.
Chicks love that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I forgot about Richard Dawson from the old episodes of Family Feud. You can watch it on the Game Show Network.

The way he approaches each female contestant and introduces himself personally is a case study in true DJism.

Watch his movements, C+F, handholding, eye contact, overall charm and guess what, he kisses each one of them.

Awesome!
 

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Theodore Roosevelt
Franklin D. Roosevelt
Abraham Lincoln
John D. Rockerfeller
Lloyd George
Andrew Carnegie

And many more that i cant recall right now. I know you cant watch clips on these individuals, but read biographies about them, and most of them got to the top not because their technical abilities but by their people skills, charisma included.
 

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Definitely Arnold Schwarzenegger, he is what discipline, positive thinking and sheer willpower is all about.

Also Bob Marley, Hitler, Clinton....
 

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Cosmo Kramer :D
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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