"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vin Diesel is FAR from charismatic.

My vote has to go to Steve Jobs...there's a reason they call him the rockstar of the computer world. Other than Hitler and Castro, he's the only person who can command 100% attention for hours on end...everything he does, the crowd eats up.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bill Murray
Mike Massey (trick shot pool champion)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ahh the old charisma thread, what is it and who's got it.

Just wondered. Who is charismatic, yet is plain looking, even uglyish, and what is it about them that gives them charisma?

I was thinking of somebody like Ghandi.
 
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mr bean :p
 
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Mother Teresa? Not sure, but she always had a tea towel when you needed one.

It's just that, my bee in my bonnet is you get some right arseholes that are supposedly charismatic, but they are always good looking.

People talk about how you become charismatic, forget it if you are the elephant man.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Reading about guys who are charismatic won't teach you how to be charisma It will simply teach you ABOUT guys who are charismatic.

Movie charisma is fun, but won't work too well in real life, because the people around you aren't programmed to respond with memorized lines.

Most all of your behavior you learn from other people. Your best bet would be to befriend charismatic people and spend a lot of time around them.

Don't outright copy them, but just mirror some of their attitude towards people. Especially strangers. It'll definately do more for you than reading a bio of communists.
 
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Originally posted by Panda 2000
The Beastie Boys
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I've been listening to them since I was two years of age (as well as Rage Against the Machine). Girls-they do the dishes. Girls-they do the laundrey. Girls-they **** you.(I added that last line):D

Phineas from A Seperate Peace by John Knowles
 
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The Miles Davis Story

If you want to learn something about charisma, watch
"the miles davis story". You do NOT have to understand / like his music to enjoy this documentary.

There is also some interviews with miles and some of his ladies where you can see how this DJ acts and how this is percieved/described and how their reaction is "justified" by the girls.

Awful artist, awful MAN, awful DVD !!

MoveYourA$$... and your brain will follow
 
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Glad you guys are finally mentioning arnold swarzenegger......Anyone watch that A&E show "See Arnold Run".....that really motivated me, especially the scene where he broke up with his girlfriend unregretably. Arnold is the man

P.S- Vin Diesel??? Someone put that murmering bald idiot to sleep.
 
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John F. Kennedy Jr.

Bill Clinton, on of the coolest things he did was bite his bottom lip.
Chicks love that.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I forgot about Richard Dawson from the old episodes of Family Feud. You can watch it on the Game Show Network.

The way he approaches each female contestant and introduces himself personally is a case study in true DJism.

Watch his movements, C+F, handholding, eye contact, overall charm and guess what, he kisses each one of them.

Awesome!
 
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Theodore Roosevelt
Franklin D. Roosevelt
Abraham Lincoln
John D. Rockerfeller
Lloyd George
Andrew Carnegie

And many more that i cant recall right now. I know you cant watch clips on these individuals, but read biographies about them, and most of them got to the top not because their technical abilities but by their people skills, charisma included.
 
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Definitely Arnold Schwarzenegger, he is what discipline, positive thinking and sheer willpower is all about.

Also Bob Marley, Hitler, Clinton....
 
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Cosmo Kramer :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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