tksniper
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I’ve noticed that there have been a lot of posts in the forum lately about how can guys improve their game, understand women better, improve their personal charm, etc. I can’t help but to feel like these posts are coming from the personality ethic, aka the ego and not the character ethic, aka integrity and true self. The ego is always trying to seek validation. It’s always trying to find new ways to enhance itself and survive because deep down inside it knows it’s always inadequate. The ego always suffers from the imposter syndrome.
The character ethic is the opposite. The character ethic focuses on the process of daily improvement. The character ethic focuses on the right things - fitness and health, career, hobbies, giving value instead of seeking validation, contributions to the world, etc.
And I think this bias towards the personality ethic has a lot to do with social media and society’s programming. Everyone is running around like chickens with their heads chopped off because they all feel like imposters. But just because everyone is doing it, it doesn’t mean that YOU have to do it.
We need more men coming from the character ethic. The character ethic is very simple. It’s “Am I doing everything today that I know I need to do and am I avoiding the things I know I’m not supposed to do? That’s it.
If a man can achieve this level of character, he would have so much value to offer and he would stop seeking external validation.
Character ethic creates value for oneself. Personality ethic seeks validation. Character ethic transforms you into a “Singularity”. A singular being that exists on its own accord. A self defined ecosystem that needs no external validation. Personality ethic needs something to ping itself against. It needs constant approval and feedback.
I’m not saying don’t have a personality. We all have our unique individuality. What I am a proponent of is don’t try to try to enhance your superficial self to attain worldly validation. You are robbing the world of your true character.
A person’s true realized character operating at full potential is profoundly more inspirational and value offering than the facade of who he wants to project himself as.
Believe in yourself. And more importantly, believe in your true character, and not the ever changing persona that your ego is constantly trying project itself as.
The character ethic is the opposite. The character ethic focuses on the process of daily improvement. The character ethic focuses on the right things - fitness and health, career, hobbies, giving value instead of seeking validation, contributions to the world, etc.
And I think this bias towards the personality ethic has a lot to do with social media and society’s programming. Everyone is running around like chickens with their heads chopped off because they all feel like imposters. But just because everyone is doing it, it doesn’t mean that YOU have to do it.
We need more men coming from the character ethic. The character ethic is very simple. It’s “Am I doing everything today that I know I need to do and am I avoiding the things I know I’m not supposed to do? That’s it.
If a man can achieve this level of character, he would have so much value to offer and he would stop seeking external validation.
Character ethic creates value for oneself. Personality ethic seeks validation. Character ethic transforms you into a “Singularity”. A singular being that exists on its own accord. A self defined ecosystem that needs no external validation. Personality ethic needs something to ping itself against. It needs constant approval and feedback.
I’m not saying don’t have a personality. We all have our unique individuality. What I am a proponent of is don’t try to try to enhance your superficial self to attain worldly validation. You are robbing the world of your true character.
A person’s true realized character operating at full potential is profoundly more inspirational and value offering than the facade of who he wants to project himself as.
Believe in yourself. And more importantly, believe in your true character, and not the ever changing persona that your ego is constantly trying project itself as.
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