Changing the way she sees herself

[Adone]

Hi everybody, I need some help.
My girlfriend used to take the pill but we broke up and she quit. Now we're back together but she's not taking it again. We've just had a conversation about it and she said that it's because the pill makes her fat.

Actually, since she quit, she's lost some weight and actually looks better. Anyway, she's pretty hot anyway, so I don't mind at all if she's a 8 or a 8.5.

She thinks that she's maybe a 6 face-wise, but she really believes she's a fat whale. The fact is, she's not, she's 5'5 and 120-125 lbs, which is not fat at all. She just has big tits and large hips, but curvy girls are awesome.

How can I make her understand that she's beautiful and, most important, not fat?

 

[Muphaser]

tell her, be romantically DJ-ish

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

i have found that the weight subject is very sensitive with girls, one wrong move and are off the cliff, its best to find a friend of yours and hers, and ask the friend to explain it to her.
Good luck

 

[Adone]

thank you guys. other opinions?

 

[Wonderbread166]

As the above poster said, weight is an extremely touchy subject with many girls, even girls who aren't the least bit fat. I have seen girls that are as skinny as a stick think that they are fat, simply because society has ingrained the idea so deeply into their heads.

It sounds to me like this girl has rather low self-esteem. She may be hot as hell, but her beliefs aren't logical, they're based on what she feels is true. It's really very easy to trick the human mind into believing anything with enough repetition. Just having someone tell her that she looks good won't help, because even if she agrees with you logically, her subconscious won't believe it.

On the other hand, if you sincerely tell her she's beautiful, it will make her feel like a million bucks. Don't try to make her "understand" it, try to make her feel it.

 

[Bvbidd]

She could just be bull****ing you.

 

[Adone]

She could just be bull****ing you.

That's what I had thought in first place. However, I've finally managed to talk her into the pill and she's accepted, just when she was sure that I find her awesome even with a couple of lbs more.
She used to be anorexic in Junior High and she doesn't eat a lot yet; I've told her that lack of exercise is what doesn't let her lose weight, but she hasn't much time free, since she attends a really tough High School. She's joined a swimming pool by the time she quit using the pill and she thinks that the lost weight is due to quitting the pill rather than swimming.

 

[Skilla_Staz]

To me is sounds like shes fishing for compliments. I hate this.

When a girl starts pulling that "I'm fat" stuff, I start being a nutritionist. I ask her if she seriously thinks so, and if she's willing to do somthing about it. If not, I tell her to stop complaining. If she is, then I guide her a little bit. Give her some nutrition guidance. I help her out with making an exercise routine, even offer to let her lift with me. (Not exactly with me, can't afford to waste that much time.) Working out is a huge plus with a girl. You get to show off without being obvious. Just don't get carried away. Also, she will begin to feel better about herself without you going all sappy.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Fvck her extra hard..??

 

[Skilla_Staz]

haha If you're any good that'll just leave her happy and bowlegged for a while. Once the toes uncurl and the euphoria wears off, she's back to thinking she's fat.