"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Changing my life, take 2.

Mr_rogers

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Hey guys,

I used to frequent this site quite a bit before this past summer but after moving from my hometown and being forced to adjust to a brand new environment, I didn’t really feel the need for the guidance anymore.

When I was posting here before, I was a real mess. I was thin, single, socially awkward, lazy and unmotivated. I’d never had a girlfriend (though I’d been on a couple of dates, they’d never gone anywhere) and I couldn’t even hold down a part-time job. I had few friends and even fewer interests.

This thread is going to be a journal of my progress toward becoming happy and satisfied with my life. Right now my main concerns are the following:

- Getting in shape.

I’m 6’1” tall and probably around 160lbs. My lower body is in good shape as I walk frequently, but my upper body (pretty much from the waist up) is still pretty thin. I have the frame to become an extremely large and muscular person with exercise (I’m built like my dad, and when he was around my age he got absolutely huge by working out). Thus, my goal is to increase my overall physical fitness, focusing mostly on bulking up my upper body and increasing my strength.

To do this, I’ll need a job (so I can afford weights or a gym membership. I haven’t decided yet.).

- Finding work.

A person my age should be working if they’re not in college. Seeing how I’m not doing either, there’s a problem that needs to be addressed. There’s a grocery store near my house, though I’m not sure if they’re hiring right now or not. I’m going to make it a top priority to find out. I’ve checked elsewhere in town and there’s not much in the way of job opportunities, so I may need to search further.

- Finding more interests.

While I’m doing better than I was in the months before I took some time away from this site, this area could still use some work. I’ve decided that learning how to play a few of the more popular card games (like Poker) would be helpful, but other than that I’m sort of at a loss for the time being. I’ll figure something out, though.

- Being more helpful around the house.

Since I’m living with my parents I’m expected to do a few things to contribute. Again, I’m not working so I do a bit of housework to earn my keep. All in all, it’s a good deal, but I could certainly be doing more. It’s extremely important to me to maintain a good relationship with my parents and showing gratitude for what they do for me is probably the best way to do it.

So, I’m going to update this every day or two to log my progress toward the goals I listed above and some others that I’ll be adding later on. Comments, encouragement and the like are of course appreciated.

Here goes nothing. :D
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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everywomanshero

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With no rent to pay or anything, you should save up and spend the summer traveling. At least that's what I'd do. Even with small time cash you could spend the whole summer galavanting around Central or South America living it up... women, guides, good food, adventure, etc.

Sounds like you're on the right track, holism. Fixing the whole life rather than trying to feel better by fixating on one small piece (usually social for guys who come here). Hobbies, sometimes I find that you just have to be willing to try things that don't sound so thrilling.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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WC2

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Great post. You should always work on improving yourself first and faremost before worrying about women.

"First you get the money. Then you get the power. Then you get the women."
 
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