"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Changing my life, take 2.

Mr_rogers

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Hey guys,

I used to frequent this site quite a bit before this past summer but after moving from my hometown and being forced to adjust to a brand new environment, I didn’t really feel the need for the guidance anymore.

When I was posting here before, I was a real mess. I was thin, single, socially awkward, lazy and unmotivated. I’d never had a girlfriend (though I’d been on a couple of dates, they’d never gone anywhere) and I couldn’t even hold down a part-time job. I had few friends and even fewer interests.

This thread is going to be a journal of my progress toward becoming happy and satisfied with my life. Right now my main concerns are the following:

- Getting in shape.

I’m 6’1” tall and probably around 160lbs. My lower body is in good shape as I walk frequently, but my upper body (pretty much from the waist up) is still pretty thin. I have the frame to become an extremely large and muscular person with exercise (I’m built like my dad, and when he was around my age he got absolutely huge by working out). Thus, my goal is to increase my overall physical fitness, focusing mostly on bulking up my upper body and increasing my strength.

To do this, I’ll need a job (so I can afford weights or a gym membership. I haven’t decided yet.).

- Finding work.

A person my age should be working if they’re not in college. Seeing how I’m not doing either, there’s a problem that needs to be addressed. There’s a grocery store near my house, though I’m not sure if they’re hiring right now or not. I’m going to make it a top priority to find out. I’ve checked elsewhere in town and there’s not much in the way of job opportunities, so I may need to search further.

- Finding more interests.

While I’m doing better than I was in the months before I took some time away from this site, this area could still use some work. I’ve decided that learning how to play a few of the more popular card games (like Poker) would be helpful, but other than that I’m sort of at a loss for the time being. I’ll figure something out, though.

- Being more helpful around the house.

Since I’m living with my parents I’m expected to do a few things to contribute. Again, I’m not working so I do a bit of housework to earn my keep. All in all, it’s a good deal, but I could certainly be doing more. It’s extremely important to me to maintain a good relationship with my parents and showing gratitude for what they do for me is probably the best way to do it.

So, I’m going to update this every day or two to log my progress toward the goals I listed above and some others that I’ll be adding later on. Comments, encouragement and the like are of course appreciated.

Here goes nothing. :D
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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everywomanshero

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With no rent to pay or anything, you should save up and spend the summer traveling. At least that's what I'd do. Even with small time cash you could spend the whole summer galavanting around Central or South America living it up... women, guides, good food, adventure, etc.

Sounds like you're on the right track, holism. Fixing the whole life rather than trying to feel better by fixating on one small piece (usually social for guys who come here). Hobbies, sometimes I find that you just have to be willing to try things that don't sound so thrilling.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WC2

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Great post. You should always work on improving yourself first and faremost before worrying about women.

"First you get the money. Then you get the power. Then you get the women."
 
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