"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Change your attitude

Mavrick

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I was walking down the hall this morning, and something just didn't feel right. It was as if I didn't feel good about myself today. I hadn't heard from a girl I had been talking to, and it was causing me to second guess my self. I found that I was telling myself that I must not be good enough. Then the rest of me became congruent with that feeling. Now, IF I were still AFC, I'd be calling her and trying to qualify myself, but thankfully I didn't.

Then something snapped. My mind went back to positive thinking. I started to realize that I used to do that to myself because of a women all the time. I realized a woman cannot make me who I am. Just because a woman is not in my life or has stopped pursuing anything with me, does not change who I am. People change their minds all the time, and I (or you) should not let that affect me (or you).

I am who I am regardless of a woman. There are plenty on my plate, but because the one I like the most is not calling does not mean I have to get down on myself. She's just making a piss poor decision. She doesn't know what she's missing. Now, if she calls, I probably won't answer because I want her to feel like she messed up. I'll answer after a few calls because I don't care if I lose her. The woman does not make the man. My life is as it is without her.

Now, this is a place where every man should be. I've finally gotten there, and It's the best feeling in the world. I've found things that I really enjoy, and my time is full of enjoyment. If a woman comes in my life that I like (which has been hard to find lately), she will only add to my fulfilled life.

So, do not make a woman the center of your life. Know exactly who you are, so no one can tell you different. Find enjoyment out of life! Don't mope around if a woman walks out on you because she has just given you a new lease on life. What you tell yourself about yourself is what you'll become. So, start giving yourself some POSITIVE affirmations and BELIEVE in yourself. Change you attitude!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SkillzthatKillz

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Why am I the only reply to this!! You hit the nail right on the head. Good for you buddy.
 

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the way you are thinking is correct. there are some points you need to get out of your mind but that will come in time while your live gets better because of your constructive attitude.

Walk on!
 

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Good post, I know what you mean. I still go through this and I think it will take a while before I am fully in the frame of mind that nothing women do can bother me. Sometimes it takes me a while to snap out of it.

Good advice though, I think the more we force ourselves to think this way, the more we see the benefit and it becomes more of a natural attitude.
 

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This is what it's all about right here, its your happiness and your life first, be the centre of your world. Love yourself and your life, and the rest will follow.....women are just another piece of your pie



independence!

BUMP BUMP BUMP
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Mavrick said:
I was walking down the hall this morning, and something just didn't feel right. It was as if I didn't feel good about myself today. I hadn't heard from a girl I had been talking to, and it was causing me to second guess my self. I found that I was telling myself that I must not be good enough. Then the rest of me became congruent with that feeling. Now, IF I were still AFC, I'd be calling her and trying to qualify myself, but thankfully I didn't.

Then something snapped. My mind went back to positive thinking. I started to realize that I used to do that to myself because of a women all the time.
This is happening me more and more too. I'm more conscious of my feelings now and can consciously change them. Its makes you feel more in control of yourself rather than being a passenger.
 
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