"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Challenges and Exercises

MrP

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In this thread, feel free to post any sort of exercise you have come across or used. Also feel free to create a challenge, such as; "Get 3 numbers in 30 mins" or something like that.

I won't be able to do most of these for 2 weeks, but after that I can.

Anyone who wants to do these, I encourage you to do so. Post your results.

I will be posting my results in the "Becoming a player. Mr. P's Journey" thread.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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NorwegianDJ

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DJ_Hero said:
Sounds a bit outcome dependent, will probably end up sabotaging yourself.

Just stick with the basics like "do 10 approaches in 1 week" or something similar that doesn't rely on the outcome to be a success.
That's true, but it wont always stop us from gaining results. Even if you need an outcome, you can still be succesfull. It's all in the mindset.

I like the ones that doesn't focus on an outcome, like "Do 10 approaches in a day". Also "Get 10 rejections" is great, because it removes the desired outcome and you win no matter what the outcome is.

We could also post games here, like games you can do with chicks. What I'm posting now is mostly not fieldtested by me.

Spinhug, transition to thumb-war, slaps. With high energy etc it can lead to an insta-makeout.

I liked Jack Wealthy's version of stone scissors paper; pick paper and wrap it over her stone if she picks that.

We could also make this a bootcamp-like thread, with everyone doing one challenge. Could be good in the vacations/weekends.
 

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NorwegianDJ said:
That's true, but it wont always stop us from gaining results. Even if you need an outcome, you can still be succesfull. It's all in the mindset.

I like the ones that doesn't focus on an outcome, like "Do 10 approaches in a day". Also "Get 10 rejections" is great, because it removes the desired outcome and you win no matter what the outcome is.

We could also post games here, like games you can do with chicks. What I'm posting now is mostly not fieldtested by me.

Spinhug, transition to thumb-war, slaps. With high energy etc it can lead to an insta-makeout.

I liked Jack Wealthy's version of stone scissors paper; pick paper and wrap it over her stone if she picks that.

We could also make this a bootcamp-like thread, with everyone doing one challenge. Could be good in the vacations/weekends.
Another good game/practive is to smile at little kids. If you do it with a girl, they think you're cool and if you do it on your own then you learn to just not care. Or that nobody cares, if you're depressed.
I LOVE spinhugs and thumbwars, I forgot about thumbwars after the Italians left our school, I think I phased it out for paper scissors rock.
We should start a thread or post with tips for these games though, because they follow vibes so heavily that if you mess up you're screwed, even though they are so easy to get right. I guess they need personality and experience.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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