"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Causes of Lost of Interest?

Sam Adams

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Hey what are the causes of LOI in a girl and how can you prevent them? I am mainly asking about a loss of interest after initial contact. I ask because the other day I got the number of a girl (8.5) and after waiting a few days to call she won't answer her phone. THe second time I left a brief voicemail identifying myself and telling her to call back. Frankly, I'm very surprised she lost interest because it was by far and away the smoothest approach I have had recently and I have been trying to approach numerous girls the past couple weeks. I opened well, managed to neg her and make her laugh. She also flirted back and her body language appeared to show interest. My only guess is that she may have had a boyfriend and realizes my interest and would like to be loyal. So what are some reasons for LOI after initial contact and what can else can someone do to prevent LOI?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Sam Adams said:
Hey what are the causes of LOI in a girl and how can you prevent them? I am mainly asking about a loss of interest after initial contact. I ask because the other day I got the number of a girl (8.5) and after waiting a few days to call she won't answer her phone. THe second time I left a brief voicemail identifying myself and telling her to call back. Frankly, I'm very surprised she lost interest because it was by far and away the smoothest approach I have had recently and I have been trying to approach numerous girls the past couple weeks. I opened well, managed to neg her and make her laugh. She also flirted back and her body language appeared to show interest. My only guess is that she may have had a boyfriend and realizes my interest and would like to be loyal. So what are some reasons for LOI after initial contact and what can else can someone do to prevent LOI?
There 'ya go...
 

Sam Adams

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
There 'ya go...
So when do you advocate calling? I always here that calling the next day shows desperation and that by waiting 2-3 days like I did you make her wait which causes her to wonder when you will call as well as showing that you have other things to do.
 
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I have a problem sometimes getting the # but not getting the date. I think it is because I don't talk to them enough when I get the #. You have to create interest before you call because just getting the # doesn't always work.
 
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