Catchphrases that Make you CRINGE.

[Kailex]

For many, many years, I've heard it over and over again when it comes to my dating life. All of my cousins got married at 21/22 and had kids. I'm going to be 30 in three months. Even though there has been a shift in the thinking of most of my friends and family, I've heard it all. Everytime I would tell someone that I was single and wasn't in a committed relationship, I'd hear things like:

- Oh well, the right person is somewhere out there for you.
- Your soulmate is probably out there in the world wondering where "you" are.

And the worst offender:

- It'll happen when you least expect it.

To which I usually respond: A woman's period or diarrhea, in general, seem to happen when you least expect it, would you want to embark in an exclusive relationship with that?


What are some of the cringe-worthy phrases or dialogues you've heard or had in the past about why you were single at the time - at ANY point of your life?

 

[5string]

Don't worry, you'll find someone (didnt know I was looking). Or, you must be lonely (no I'm not). Don't wait too long (why not?). You don't want to be the "third wheel" for the rest of your life do you? (I don't have a problem with it, why should you?) We know someone who is also lonely that we could fix you up with (who said I was lonely? Plus, I have my dogs). Catch all when someone says this stuff.....SO WHAT!!!!

 

[Desdinova]

Post-divorce conversations have been really interesting...

Them: You'll find a good woman to settle down with
Me: I'm never getting married again.
Them: Yes you will.

WTF? Why are people telling me to put myself at risk for getting fvcked over again? I got off pretty lucky this round. Next time I might not be so lucky.

 

[Kailex]

Them: You'll find a good woman to settle down with
Me: I'm never getting married again.
Them: Yes you will.

WTF? Why are people telling me to put myself at risk for getting fvcked over again? I got off pretty lucky this round. Next time I might not be so lucky.

The gall of some people.
God forbid you want to avoid the same situation or one similar in the future.

Are these conversations happening with people that are currently married? I'd find it hard to believe that any single male would say that to you.

I'm definitely hating how society can shame a man into feeling like a worthless mass of flesh simply because he decides to stay single and not marry nor want to build or expand a family.

 

[5string]

Maybe they just secretly wish they were in your shoes.......

 

[Desdinova]

Are these conversations happening with people that are currently married? I'd find it hard to believe that any single male would say that to you.

I got it the first time from my dad. He's miserable in his second marriage, but believes that I should still get married again.

The other person who said this to me was my cousin. He split from his wife two years ago and has jumped head-first into a new relationship with a woman whom he argues with daily. They bought a house together, a boat, camper, and all new furniture. And let's not forget the engagement ring. I think he's going off to get married in Vegas this fall. He thinks he got screwed the first time around, it'll be interesting when this one ends (and it will).

These are both men who should have been much more wary especially after having gone through one failed marriage. But I guess they still believe that love conquers all.

In reality, love conquers nothing.

 

[women haze]

Wow, there is a lot of bitterness in this thread. Really no fulfilling relationships?

really???!!

well I guess I can understand to a degree, but I still believe in love for what it is...i guess.

 

[Desdinova]

Wow, there is a lot of bitterness in this thread. Really no fulfilling relationships?

So if I eat sushi for the first time, don't like it, and decide to never eat it again, does that mean I'm bitter? Not at all. The same goes for marriage. I tried it, didn't like it, won't do it again.

 

[OamImrsNemo]

Yeah.. I get the occasional omg Her:why did you break up with her you two were so good together...Me:Umm because she was lying to me.....Her:Well that was kinda a small lie.....me:which is why I am not dating you either ..

Or sometimes I hear so and so is getting married and I can't help but get a little uneasy in my stomach when there barley even 21....

Fortune favors the brave.

 

[jophil28]

Fortune favors the brave.

..and the wise.

 

[Lexington]

When I was down in Dallas, I met this nice Nigerian fellow who was a colleague of mine. He kept calling me "young man" even though he's 33. He would always tell me that he was afraid it was getting too late for me to get married. I'm 25.

The ironic thing was, this guy hated married life. He'd always be b*tching to me about it. He was away from his wife and kid and seemed to love staying away from them. He'd tell me I need to get married soon, and then with the very next breath, he'd tell me about how awesome life was when he was single.

He told me about how he could spend his money however he felt like, take trips whenever he wanted and basically spend his time any way he pleased. When I asked him why in the hell I would want to get married, he could only say "because that's what people are supposed to do."

 

[sodbuster]

I hear "as a Dentist, you must be one of the most eligible men in town,we need to find you a woman". I'm thinking "why you got an old fat friend who needs to be supported?"

NOT saying I won't do it again,but she's going to be something beyond special. As far as dating-just in the top third of women

 

[Mike32ct]

The catch-phrase I get is:

"You're still single because you're too fussy."

This one annoys me because given the high divorce rate, I should be very selective and not just marry anyone.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

I hear "as a Dentist, you must be one of the most eligible men in town,we need to find you a woman". I'm thinking "why you got an old fat friend who needs to be supported?"

That's because society is a banker pimp standing behind every woman saying "Spend all the betas money that you can, then screw the pool boy so you can divorce him and get his house and 401K."

Not to insinuate that you are a beta, but so many people hear you have money and think you should be supporting some woman's a$$hole.

Sodbuster, by royal decree of Seizeher, I hereby order you to go buy a brand new Corvette (a ZR1 if you're in the huge money) and never get married again.

 

[jophil28]

I hear "as a Dentist, you must be one of the most eligible men in town,we need to find you a woman". I'm thinking "why you got an old fat friend who needs to be supported?"

NOT saying I won't do it again,but she's going to be something beyond special. As far as dating-just in the top third of women

You hunting any quality wildlife up your way lately SodB...?

 

[sodbuster]

well, shot a decent buck last year. NOT great,but he pizzed me off. I'd make about a mile and a half walk to get to where I could look at him. then he'd be 300 yards into a neighbors pasture[no permission there] Did it to me about 3 times. When I finally found him on our land...

As far as the car, bought an 09 GMC Sierra. Wouldn't mind a 'vette,but I'm not willing to pay the price[kind of like most women in the area]. Bought land instead. Looks like they will put a wind farm in the area,so it could turn out good[they paid us cash already-not much,but money talks and BS walks]

 

[jophil28]

well, shot a decent buck last year. NOT great,but he pizzed me off. I'd make about a mile and a half walk to get to where I could look at him. then he'd be 300 yards into a neighbors pasture[no permission there] Did it to me about 3 times. When I finally found him on our land...

As far as the car, bought an 09 GMC Sierra. Wouldn't mind a 'vette,but I'm not willing to pay the price[kind of like most women in the area]. Bought land instead. Looks like they will put a wind farm in the area,so it could turn out good[they paid us cash already-not much,but money talks and BS walks]

What about the women up there ? Have you brought any down lately ?

 

[sodbuster]

1 looks to be coming back on the line,not LTR material[ex GF who wouldn't give up her cat], 3 or 4 others are possibles[about 1 possible LTR there]but not doable yet[need more training in what I'll put up with]. Several trophy's around,but they mostly have pets-a problem[Want to PET something,got it right in my pocket.Also allergic to them so I feel like I have a head cold all day if I'm around them-no woman is worth that as far as I'm concerned]Haven't found one that fits MY life-yet.

I've been out of town about 11 of the last 12 weekends-family vacation,traveling soccer team,farming,Going to watch the Minnesota Twins play[6 hour drive-1 way],school reunions, etc. Don't try to hit it when the kids are over[half the time]. SO, it sounds like an excuse,but "life has gotten in the way of me getting laid"

 

[Julian]

Who are you people hanging around with that are telling you this kind of crap? I personally flaunt my bachelor status.

 

[sodbuster]

you can at 26. When you start hitting your 30's societal pressure will ramp up. You'll start to get "do you hate women?","are you gay?",etc,etc,. Right now society doesn't EXPECT you to marry-yet.