Cars & girls

[Life-Trainee]

Ok, I live in a big city (Boston) and I don't have a car. This is a huge blow in the nuts because my transporation is limited to where the public transportation goes. I can't really afford a car right now, maybe after i graduate. This kind of kills my confidense, and I always think of it at the back of my head. When I get a date I'll probably be able to take the girl to same boring places that she goes every time with her friends. What's your take on this? Should I worry? I know that attraction is in personality. But i'm not Mr. Fab here.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by Life-Trainee
Ok, I live in a big city (Boston) and I don't have a car. This is a huge blow in the nuts because my transporation is limited to where the public transportation goes. I can't really afford a car right now, maybe after i graduate. This kind of kills my confidense, and I always think of it at the back of my head. When I get a date I'll probably be able to take the girl to same boring places that she goes every time with her friends. What's your take on this? Should I worry? I know that attraction is in personality. But i'm not Mr. Fab here.

Yep... that can be a problem.... as hard as it may be, but don't let it hurt your confidence... I had a buddy, who had some shady past with his credit.. anyway, he can't get a car for a good price now, no matter where he looks.... one day, he felt that he had to express that he was a much more complete, and well rounded DJ, than I... obviously, he was wrong as I started to point it out to him... when he said that he could pick up more chics than I, I had to laugh it off and say 'Dude, you don't even have a car, you can't pick up anyone, let alone chics!' ...*BING!* checkmate, crown me King.... he knew that battle was lost, and left feeling salty... and he's still pissed that I said it to this day.... hey, if you want to play with the big boys, you got to have more than words.... that is just the simple fact.

What I'm trying to say is... you are going to need a car, if you plan to take it to the next level, that is fact. ...but until then, you know it's a problem... at the very least, don't let it hurt your confidence too.... like it did my buddy... and he said he's a better DJ... /shakes head.

 

[Tails]

Don't worry about cars. That is all bull****. Cars only attract dumb bimbo blondes who want to look cool. It's all about you, not the car. I use public transport everday and meet alot of people during the time. Cars aren't that big of a deal. If a girl likes you, she won't care if you have a car or not.

 

[Life-Trainee]

I know couple of girls that live far away (40 minutes) but have their own cars. Is it going to diminish my success with them just of the fact that I have to depend on them to go anywhere for a date? My semi-DJ friend got a DUI couple of years ago so he had his license taken away for a year. It didn't stop him from meeting this shy chick that has her own car. She drove him around everywhere until he regained his license. The thing is, that his girl is not from this culture (Eastern Europe) so she behaves differently in than regular american or americanized girls around here. I'm really puzzled here...

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by Life-Trainee
I know couple of girls that live far away (40 minutes) but have their own cars. Is it going to diminish my success with them just of the fact that I have to depend on them to go anywhere for a date? My semi-DJ friend got a DUI couple of years ago so he had his license taken away for a year. It didn't stop him from meeting this shy chick that has her own car. She drove him around everywhere until he regained his license. The thing is, that his girl is not from this culture (Eastern Europe) so she behaves differently in than regular american or americanized girls around here. I'm really puzzled here...

You can meet chics without a car, that's not the problem here... it's very rare, but it does happen... hell, the buddy I was talking about has a gf... she drives his broke ass around all the time... but whether he wants to admit it or not, he is, her b*tch.... he is, under her thumb.... *shrugs* ...it's just better for your game that you are independant that's all. It's the next level.... let me break it down like this....

Dude with sh*tty set of wheels > Dude with Nikes.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

WTF are you on about, I don't have a car and live inn a big city... Do like everyone else does here, BUSS..... Whenever people go out on dates or whatever they meet at the place or take a buss together.... If you are out clubbing and there is a onenightstand gonna happen we either take the nightbuss or a cab. A car means nothing.

 

[DankNuggs]

Kinetic, you like in Ireland/England/Australia (i forget my apologies) It is probably different culturally getting around. (Buses and public transportation in boston aren't the best)

You should look at your lack of wheels on the bright side, you can use your time on the T to meet people. it isnt a big disadvantage at all...

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Norway, but yes.

 

[diablo]

Have you considered getting a bike? They're infinitely cheaper than a car, and the insurance on them is like 50 bucks a month. Not to mention they look cool.

 

[lerxst]

That little voice in the back of your head? That's pride f*ckin with you. When you live in a city you do not NEED a car. The majority of the girls you meet won't have a car either. If they do, so what? Have them pick your a$$ up. If they got a problem with that, it's theirs, not yours. Plenty of women won't have a problem with it so you shouldn't either.

As for boring places? Come on, use your imagination here. There is plenty of interesting stuff to do in any city. Get to know the city on your own first. Find cool interesting places, research a little. MSN City Sidewalk is excellent for this. And stop being concerned about trying to impress random girls.

 

[Chemistry]

Yea it can be a problem...

But there's two options I see...

I was bussin home from University today and what do I see at the bus stop... a fine lookin girl with the cutest face who I got talkin to, and took her number down... I wouldn't have met girl had I had a set of wheels... then you run it on that front, you get together in town and the rest, and as difficult as that **** can seem if you keep it quiet, get to her place and get taxis out to the bar or restaurants you visit it makes it all seem such a minor thing as long as you are on your game so she doesn't get caught up in the next man with a car...

Option #2... get a girl with a car... work your game, get this girl under your thumb and she will drive everywhere for you... she'll drive 20 minutes over to pick you up then you drive 20 minutes back to her place... girl is like your wheels, trouble is givin it up will be hard, and once you've had that independance albeit not being able to use it in the pick up game goin back is gonna be hard

 

[squirrels]

How can you run out of places to go in a big city? Does Boston suck that much? LOL

If you can't afford a car and you're OK with using public transportation, then just do that until you can afford one. If the girl isn't cool with that, f**k her. If YOU are not cool with that, then get a job and make some money so you CAN afford a car.