"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Caring less is the answer?

Jair213

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Sup yall. ON some of my previous posts some of witch probably some of you saw was that was talking to some chick at work, i dont work there anymore.

Bein dating her ever since, this is the first time I have being showing carelessness, not in that sense but I just let her do all the initiation on wen to see each other, and 60 percent of the time i re-arrange the dats due to me being busy, going to the gym, etc.

Now she wants to come to the gym with me and get a membership.(even though she always hated working out and going to the gym)

She even asks me stuff like. do you enjoy hanging out with me? etc. I just tell her that I do, but I never ask her if she does with me when she asks those type of questions, infact 3 days ago she ask me to come run with her(witch she hates as previously stated) Dont get me wrong though she's slim no fat cute chick.

Now yesterday she ask me if i ever thought of being in an LTR, and i told her i dont look for that if it comes to me it comes, and ill make decisions acordingly. She just stayed quiet and then said ''well i mention it because i always seem to be the one talking about this topics'' as if i care more about wats going on...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jair213

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Just that my state of mind towards this chick has being ''careless'' I wonder if thats even the case as to why she's even being like this.
 

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She's wanting more out of the relationship than just friends. I didn't read your previous posts about this girl but if you are interested in her she is pretty much throwing herself at you. I wouldn't say you are being careless, just indifferent. If you are interested then do what you wan't, if not, cast her aside and don't feel bad about it, chicks do it so why can't we?
 

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alphaace said:
She's wanting more out of the relationship than just friends. I didn't read your previous posts about this girl but if you are interested in her she is pretty much throwing herself at you. I wouldn't say you are being careless, just indifferent. If you are interested then do what you wan't, if not, cast her aside and don't feel bad about it, chicks do it so why can't we?

True but OP keep in mind that some girls like the idea of chasing a guy and getting him to commit. Once she gets the guy to commit the fun is no longer there,you're no longer a challenge and she dogs you. I'm not saying this is the case but i'm just saying keep your guard up. You can show her some interest but not too much like a herb (my def. for an AFC) would. Push and pull. You can choose what you want whether its to just pipe or get in a relationship bruh.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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