She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It sounds a bit suspect. Yeah, if you begin your cardio at a deficit of carbs to sustain the workout you could become hungry afterwards. The problem is that people in general tend to eat too fast and end up eating more than they need or even want because they don't recognize that "satisfied" feeling during the time they're wolfing down food.DrHouse said:Anyone see that book about avoiding any cardio and just lifting. They claim that cardio makes you more hungry and thus you overeat....any truth to this?I love my cardio....my stress reliever.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Oh I'm saying not to lift. The benefit from lifting is that your body will continuously burn more calories to sustain the added muscle. I'd question the guy on "Good morning America" on what his diet was like. It's not a question about how much you eat either, what matters is what you eat.DrHouse said:I don't know the author of the book but i saw the segment on "Good morning America" where Diane Sawyer had a personal trainer helping her work out....he came out and said that she (Diane Sawyer) lost more weight with just lifting compared to added cardio....so according to him "why waste your time with cardio which doesn't shed any weight.....and look at the cardio room in any gym....mostly overweight people sweating it out for what....nothing" I thought about it and said i kind of like the stress release that cardio gives me.....sort of balances out the lifting part.
Yea?beastmaster79 said:a weight workout helps your heart just as much as "cardio". cardio is for people who want to look like a marathon runner or for people who enjoy sport sinvolving cardio. i was really into cardio and it was not healthy.
if you lift weights a few times a week and eat little or no carbs you can be jacked.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well that doesn't sound like any fun. No wonder they lose weight without any cardio, starvation typically has that effect on people.EFFORT said:I actually met the guy that wrote that book. Him and his crew went over the whole thing with me. Basically the reason the people doing it get results is because of the diet he has you on. Your eating a very small amount of food everyday and the circuit training is pretty intense. Its very strict. The whole no cardio thing is also there for business, a lot of people don't like cardio so seeing something that says they can get results without cardio really entices them to buy it, when in reality if they just fixed there diet and did there cardio they would still lose the fat. This is also geared towards "normal" population people that aren't trying to build some muscular body.
i agree. I don't think many people would even be able to do it without hiring him or his trainers. If there not able to eat 6 basic healthy meals a day without someone checking up on them how on earth are they going to be able to follow some strict starvation diet without someone checking up on them making sure there doing it.Francisco d'Anconia said:Well that doesn't sound like any fun. No wonder they lose weight without any cardio, starvation typically has that effect on people.
I'm curious how long do those people keep off the weight. Many times they are the ones most susceptible to yo-yo dieting.EFFORT said:i agree. I don't think many people would even be able to do it without hiring him or his trainers. If there not able to eat 6 basic healthy meals a day without someone checking up on them how on earth are they going to be able to follow some strict starvation diet without someone checking up on them making sure there doing it.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
After they run their metabolism into the ground with a low calorie diet and go back to their normal eating habits, they probably gain 10 lbsFrancisco d'Anconia said:I'm curious how long do those people keep off the weight. Many times they are the ones most susceptible to yo-yo dieting.