Yea like I said, my vertebrae sticks out further than the average person's I guess. And this really kills me when I attempt to squat. Even with the padding on the bar, it still hurts. my coach told me to try wearing a hoody next time which I'll try tomorrow. But if I can't squat, how detrimental will that be to my weight gains??? I'm about 163-164, and all I want to do is hit 170 before winter rolls around. I run cross country, so does that affect my gains? I've been lifting since the beginning of september and I've only gained about 2-3 lbs, maybe less. Anyone else making any moderate gains without squatting?
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Can't squat. Bone sticks from neck too much.
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Im very much a beginner, but in the same kind of situation.
regaurding the weight gain, its not your weights, its what you eat. So long as you are doing some weights, all you have to do is eat MORE, obviously of healthy foods.
On the squats issue, I presume you are using a high bar grip, with the bar on your neck and tops of your shoulders?
I switched to a low grip, with the bar further down my back, resting on my rear delts, a few weeks ago and now im used to it it feels much better. Consider googling it, it might help as the bar would not stick into your spine as much.
hope Ive been helpfull.
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regaurding the weight gain, its not your weights, its what you eat. So long as you are doing some weights, all you have to do is eat MORE, obviously of healthy foods.
On the squats issue, I presume you are using a high bar grip, with the bar on your neck and tops of your shoulders?
I switched to a low grip, with the bar further down my back, resting on my rear delts, a few weeks ago and now im used to it it feels much better. Consider googling it, it might help as the bar would not stick into your spine as much.
hope Ive been helpfull.
Cure.
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The bar shouldn't be resting on your neck...
Widen your grip and lower the bar down your back a few inches. Pinch your shoulder blades together, the bar should then be resting on the back of your shoulders/traps.
Resting the bar on your neck is just asking for nerve damage.
Widen your grip and lower the bar down your back a few inches. Pinch your shoulder blades together, the bar should then be resting on the back of your shoulders/traps.
Resting the bar on your neck is just asking for nerve damage.
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The bar should not be on your neck, but if you are positioned correctly and squats are not an option I wouldn't worry to much about it. There are plenty of other options. In your situation I would make sure your doing leg presses too.
The bar should be resting on your traps. When I was really skinny I had your problem too, but that's because I had no back muscles. Do military presses, 5 sets of 5, or go heavy 3 sets of 3. Soon, your traps will be big enough to rest the bar on with minimal discomfort. Also work on your shoulders.
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Maybe its the trap thing. I mean when I flex, my traps look huge, but resting its like they arent there lol. I'll lay off the squats and just deadlift and leg press for now. And hack squats frickin hurt. I guess I'm still a little weakling, but thats why its time for change. But my other question was never answered. How much does cardio affect weight gain? Because I pretty much run 3+ miles a day for cross country.
Thanks EFFORT. Well the season is almost over. And I don't really take it seriously. I use it to stay in some type of **** because once winter comes around I wont be doing anything at all. Maybe my gains will come in then? Is it possible to gain 10 lbs before the spring time? And I don't eat a runner's diet. I eat for calories, protein, carbs, etc. for weight gains.
If your motivation for doing cross country is just to stay in shape and nothing else..... fun, competition, friends, etc....then you should probably rethink doing it. You don't need cross country to stay in shape.Chrom3y said:
Assuming your following a lifting program that has you getting strong on compound lifts and your eating enough food you'll be able to add some weight. But again it'll be tough to maintain it if you start running again. I recommend writing out your exact goals then it'll be easy to create a plan to reach them, though you may have to give up some stuff.