"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Can't Just Sit and Wait...?

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A-Man2151

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I know it's kinda cheesy, and I usually don't go this route...but it was pretty much my only option for this situation. I met a girl last week at a friend's graduation party. She is very cute, and I learned from my friend that she is single, and rather than hit on her at a family grad party, I sent her a Facebook message a few days later. After exchanging a few innocent messages on the site, I decided to see if she wanted to grab lunch sometime. Right now it is my only form of communication with her. After answering my first couple of messages very quickly, it has been four days since I asked her out, and no response. OK, so I know when I'm getting rejected...not really that big of a deal. My question is...do I save myself some face, and rather than just sit around acting like I'm gonna wait 3 weeks for a response...do I write her back and say something like 'OK, maybe this isn't gonna work...have a good rest of your summer'...or do I just completely ignore the situation and not write anything more, and act like I don't care...just wondering what you guys think is the better option...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Personally, I think if i were in your shoes i would send a normal convo message to show this isnt a big deal, like you did before. Defo dont send one saying this isnt going to work, because obviously you used facebook to contact her, and that is usually for social networking, not specifically for picking up girls. If she wants to go out with you, give her the opportunity to ask you out, but in the mean time look at your other options.

I think if i were in her shoes, and i genuinly didnt get a chance to pick up the message, then when i log on, get one saying its notgonna work, it means you are making assumptions and it would put my back up.
 
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I wouldn't send anything and move on...Bottom line the situation, she was being polite but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying no so she's ignoring it...Chances are if you see her she'll say she didnt get it...Aren't girls nice like that!!!!

Yeah move on man!!
 
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