"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Can't Go Clubbing because I am FAT!?!?!?!

Alle_Gory

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SharinganUser said:
EDIT: Right now I weigh about 108 kilos. This is a video I am in http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R1jO8AIIH8k. I am definitely not morbidly obese.
In that video you are in between chubby and fat. From the looks of your body, you have a good base for weightlifting. You should respond well to it.

Now if everyone says you are fat, you are fat. Different place, different norms.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Stop going to gay clubs? Unless you are a fag, nevermind then.

Anyway, layoff the fast food, beer, bla bla...
 

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Er you're not morbidly obese but you're looking pretty unhealthy. If you're living in China then not many other people will be fat so that's probably why it gets pointed out so much...

By the way if you want to lose weight cardio and gym combined are a lot better than 90% of body weight exercises.
 

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Meh youre not fat at all :S kinda chunky but not a big deal. Just start exercising a bit more
 

SharinganUser

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Don Shinra said:
Stop going to gay clubs? Unless you are a fag, nevermind then.

Anyway, layoff the fast food, beer, bla bla...

Dude I am not going to gay clubs. The men here in china out number the women by 10's of millions. It doesn't matter what club I go to, there is going to be gays there.

Uhm... Why are you complaining if you want to do the same thing? Actually, now that I think about it, do you make fun of people often? Because if you do, they might do the same to you, thinking it's normal for you and you won't take it seriously.

I don't really want to do that. I am just angry and bitter. I don't think I'll do that once things get better. I am not really that kind of person. I don't make fun of people's appearance or things that I think might offend them. Besides these are almost random strangers that are harrassing me, they have no idea what I think is normal or if I will take it seriously.

I am actually feeling better about it today. I went out to the clubs last night and no one bothered me, I didn't drink much but I danced a lot and had a good time, made a few approachs but got shot down. I am going to go for 3-6 hour walks everyday and do atleast 100 push ups and 50 sit ups to start off. Then for every piece of "bad" food I eat, I'll have to do 100 more push ups. I'll also look for a gym in my area.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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