"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Can't get past the physical

lordson

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There was a situation once many years ago when there was this girl in my uni class.

We became friends, and she admitted that at first she didn't like me at all, but we became close-ish friends, and one day we were in the common room, there wasn't enough seats so we just spooned on the couch together.

This kinda started off something a little, it was like a un-spoken sexual tension between us for a few weeks after that, but neither of us said anything.

Anyway i started liking the girl, pretty sure she started liking me too i'm quite certain, but she was about a 4/10, objectively, but the fact that i liked her for who she was it made her about a 6/10 in my eyes, still nothing great.

So in the end, I did not act on it and just let it past because i thought to myself, i can't be seen in public with her, or let my friends see me with her. but privately i wouldn't have an issue with her looks, well not really anyway; i wasn't attracted to her looks at all really, maybe slightly because i liked her. I'm about a 7-8/10.

But yeah, we would have been good together i think, our personalities suited and both liked each other for who they were.

just couldn't get past the physical. i liked her alot really, now that i think about it. oh well

This happened to anybody else?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tsmith2334

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Yea it has. I once worked with a girl that had a cute face and a really cool personality. She was real funny, and I could make her laugh. There was the potential for something, but I never pursued because she was ridiculously skinny. Not slender like a model, but toothpick thin. She had the body of a 12 year old and I couldn't get past it.
 

War Against Betaism

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Yeah, happened to me plenty of times. The worst is when you meet them from myspace and you see them up front and you get really disappointed.
 
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