"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Can't get over this one mentality...

Aresx

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Hey guys, I need advice/reframing help on this issue.

I keep focusing on my looks; I cannot get over the mindset that my looks are pretty much f.ucking up my game. here's my picture:
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=OZKRBER&key=UDK.

Most people rate me a 5, with some rating me a 6-7. I have a cute girlfriend who thinks I'm attractive, yet I feel so insecure about my looks, especially when getting rejected when I sarge.

I have been doing my approaches (Adventures of an RAFC) but I still feel that there's something i should do to improve my looks.

I try and look my best as much as possible - contacts, groomed with slight stubble, hair slicked back (i even get $40 haircuts), clothes are okay... maybe I could use a little help, but I think I dress slightly better than the average male.

Can game really be nearly independent of looks? Or does a man's attractiveness improve with his game because of subtle changes in his appearance?

I'm thinking of asking HBFriend what it would take for a chick like her to want to f.uck the shyt out of me the minute she sees me. is this a good idea, or should i be guided by the masculine DJs/PUAs on this site? She may say one thing and really mean another, and I don't want to fall into that trap.

Is it even worth me asking "How do I look better" or should i focus on "How do i pickup girls"? For the record, I just want to learn to get girls. I am already doing things for myself, this is just the focus of my self-improvement at the moment. I just want to fix it and move on with my life.

How do I stop thinking this way? OR How do I make myself more phsycially attractive?

I'm working out, trying to clear up skin, and trying to get healthy already, yet any advice you may have would greatly be appreciated.

Thanks in advance.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you're naturally a messy person, don't go for GQ, go out and look like a rockstar, or a hobo (they both look the same).

In fact, passing off as a tortured artist or a hardcore rocker is easier than passing off as a phoney 1960s Sean Connery, and both are just as appealing.

--iMat
 

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In that case... tips on looking like a friggin rockstar?
 

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clothes

I dont know what the fashion scene in the USA is currently. Here is a suggestion, just a suggestion. If you have a good physique dress to show it. If you have a good face, get the hair done to reveal it. Cover the crap and reveal the goods.

So, if you have an ugly mug on your shoulders, use hair to cover it, if you are fat, nahhh, if you are fat, lose weight. If you are scrawny, wear baggy stuff until you build a body.

I think that you need to simpy emphasize the positive and cover the negative.

By the way, do you really believe that men can have female friends? Don't you really want to pork her?
 

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I porked her once but that was a long time ago. She continues to flirt with me, and always has her head or hand resting on my d.ick. I can grab her a.ss and t.its (p.ussy maybe) as friends... we're just really comfortable. We share sex stories, and oddly enough, I don't get jealous.

Oh, and I need to find some rockstar-like clothes and shyt, find out how to dress like that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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