"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Can't get over this one mentality...

Aresx

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Hey guys, I need advice/reframing help on this issue.

I keep focusing on my looks; I cannot get over the mindset that my looks are pretty much f.ucking up my game. here's my picture:
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=OZKRBER&key=UDK.

Most people rate me a 5, with some rating me a 6-7. I have a cute girlfriend who thinks I'm attractive, yet I feel so insecure about my looks, especially when getting rejected when I sarge.

I have been doing my approaches (Adventures of an RAFC) but I still feel that there's something i should do to improve my looks.

I try and look my best as much as possible - contacts, groomed with slight stubble, hair slicked back (i even get $40 haircuts), clothes are okay... maybe I could use a little help, but I think I dress slightly better than the average male.

Can game really be nearly independent of looks? Or does a man's attractiveness improve with his game because of subtle changes in his appearance?

I'm thinking of asking HBFriend what it would take for a chick like her to want to f.uck the shyt out of me the minute she sees me. is this a good idea, or should i be guided by the masculine DJs/PUAs on this site? She may say one thing and really mean another, and I don't want to fall into that trap.

Is it even worth me asking "How do I look better" or should i focus on "How do i pickup girls"? For the record, I just want to learn to get girls. I am already doing things for myself, this is just the focus of my self-improvement at the moment. I just want to fix it and move on with my life.

How do I stop thinking this way? OR How do I make myself more phsycially attractive?

I'm working out, trying to clear up skin, and trying to get healthy already, yet any advice you may have would greatly be appreciated.

Thanks in advance.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If you're naturally a messy person, don't go for GQ, go out and look like a rockstar, or a hobo (they both look the same).

In fact, passing off as a tortured artist or a hardcore rocker is easier than passing off as a phoney 1960s Sean Connery, and both are just as appealing.

--iMat
 

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In that case... tips on looking like a friggin rockstar?
 

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clothes

I dont know what the fashion scene in the USA is currently. Here is a suggestion, just a suggestion. If you have a good physique dress to show it. If you have a good face, get the hair done to reveal it. Cover the crap and reveal the goods.

So, if you have an ugly mug on your shoulders, use hair to cover it, if you are fat, nahhh, if you are fat, lose weight. If you are scrawny, wear baggy stuff until you build a body.

I think that you need to simpy emphasize the positive and cover the negative.

By the way, do you really believe that men can have female friends? Don't you really want to pork her?
 

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I porked her once but that was a long time ago. She continues to flirt with me, and always has her head or hand resting on my d.ick. I can grab her a.ss and t.its (p.ussy maybe) as friends... we're just really comfortable. We share sex stories, and oddly enough, I don't get jealous.

Oh, and I need to find some rockstar-like clothes and shyt, find out how to dress like that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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