Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Can't get a hold of her, only voice mail

static

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I got this girl's number about 3 weeks ago. I called her 2 different Sunday nights, and various times throughout weekdays but I always got her shy simple voicemail: "Hi you've reached my voicemail, leave a message."

I met her at the University Cafeteria. She was sitting by a door. As I walked in she was looking at me and when I caught her, she turned, then I gave another look and smiled, she smiled back. I went and talked to her. She seemd embarresed at her smiling at me and claimed that she thought she knew me. "Oh, that explains it, You look like my friend who use to go here." We talked for like 15 min. (yeah, I should cut it sooner). She was very nervous. Her head was shaking. She might have even stuttered, I don't remember. But she rushed to find a paper like a servent when I requested her number.

I don't know...I hate to get into the mindset that she may be different. But maybe she doesn't answer because she's super nervous or something. I'm thinking maybe she would feel more comfortable calling someone rather than randomly picking up. But either way, I don't want to wait any longer, so I plan to call her and just leave a message and see what's up. Any tips?

" Hey HB, it's Static, give me a call" sounds too simple, maybe I should add C+F?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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playasupreme

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Don't waste your time. If she has a decent excuse she will seek you out-- in which case milk some guilt-sex out of her. Otherwise stop pining it's been three weeks man.
 

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Ok you haven't left a message yet, but she obviously knows someone's trying to contact her from a # she doesnt' recognize. She's not dumb, and don't think she's different. Call her leave her a message, telling her you'd like to talk to her. If she calls back cool, if not, stop wasting time on dumb girls.



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Originally posted by static
I met her at the University Cafeteria. She was sitting by a door. As I walked in she was looking at me and when I caught her, she turned,
please don't talk to me

Originally posted by static
then I gave another look and smiled, she smiled back.
well maybe i know him...don't want to be rude...

Originally posted by static
I went and talked to her.
sh!ttttt!!!!!!

Originally posted by static She seemd embarresed at her smiling at me and claimed that she thought she knew me. "Oh, that explains it, You look like my friend who use to go here."
that is why i am talking to you. but since your not my friend please get the hint and go away...

Originally posted by static
We talked for like 15 min. (yeah, I should cut it sooner). She was very nervous. Her head was shaking. She might have even stuttered, I don't remember.
what should i do? this guy won't go away! i'm getting scared...i might have to lie and be mean...someone save me....

Originally posted by static
But she rushed to find a paper like a servent when I requested her number.
thank the lord jesus! now maybe he will go away!!!





i think that you should next her, son.
 

JJMcLure

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First off, I don't think you did bad by talking for 15 mins. The more rapport you build before closing and calling her increases your chance of success when you do call.

As for her being nervous, who knows. Either you look scary or she is nervous about being chatted up. I wasn't there so can't say, but I'd guess on the latter.

The number is getting kind of old. You have nothing to lose by leaving a message. Make it something interesting, maybe cut off half way through etc (the old trick). I don't rate the chances of her calling back very high, especially if she was so nervous before. So make it a decent message, try to give her a reason to call.

Do a search on "answering machine" there are a bunch of posts on this topic.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She has absolutely ZERO interest. She gave you her number because she didnt want to feel uncomfortable and she though you were a "nice" guy.

iqqi said it best...
 

PRMoon

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Typically If I call a girl once and she doesn't reply after i left a voicemail I won't call her back. It only adds to your fustration level and you don't need that kind of stress. Sounds like your in college, find some one else to occupy your time with.
 
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