"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Can't gain muscle without gaining fat? Truth?

FM 3321

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Last year I was able to achieve a good amount of fat loss over a period of 3 months by lifting weights 3 days a week (Mon-back/bi, Tue- chest/tri, Fri-legs) and incorporating at least 40 minutes of cardio 3-4 times a week along with a calorie monitored diet (1500-1900 calories a day).

This time around I'm following the same plan but I was wondering if lifting weights could be hindering my fat loss. I read somewhere in which someone said that you can't gain muscle without gaining fat. I wanted to pose this idea here to see what the truth behind all that is. Last year I seemed to have been able to lose fat as well as gain muscle with the plan I followed.

It only makes sense to me that lifting weights can only help reduce fat because you burn calories by doing so but I want to make sure there isn't something I'm missing about the idea of lifting weights while trying to lose weight. In the past I would think just doing straight cardio 5 days a week would be the key but I want to keep and even gain muscle as well.

Right now I'm 6 feet tall, 255lbs with 29.7% bodyfat last time I checked with the meter they let me use at my local Gold's Gym.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rampage1

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doing weights can only help the fat loss if along with a good diet and cardio. end of
 

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It's complicated. In order to ensure you're getting maximal muscle growth you need a ton of nutrients, and to make sure you get all these you often have to eat a lot of food, which has the side effect of some fat gains.
 

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You won't gain substantial amount of muscle without a little bit of fat as well, but there's no reason you can't add 'some' muscle without putting on fat(or losing fat for that matter).
 

FM 3321

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Cool....thanks for the replies. Keeping the diet in check must be one of the most important aspects. It's easy to pig out when lifting weights it seems. Hell, it's just easy for me to pig out at any time. :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You can eat to gain mass, or eat to lose mass, or eat to maintain mass.

You have to decide what you want more, to get 'ripped' or to gain more muscle mass.
Once you decide exactly what you want in your physique , you can then dial in your diet, and include more cardio or less depending on your goals.
 

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And if you gain muscle mass but no fat, then you're going to drop some bodyfat percentage points due to having a higher lean body mass to fat ratio.
 

FM 3321

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Thanks for the latest replies. I have been focusing on my diet while sticking to my workout schedule and things are getting better. :)
 
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