"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Can't find a single girl to save my life

Snowman23

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This has been my achilles heel. Almost every cute girl has a boyfriend. They've never given me the "boyfriend" excuse. But I know for a fact they have one from either their myspace, facebook, or a friend has told me. It's just frustrating because most of the time I can't even lay down some game. I see an attractive woman and don't even bother anymore. She's either got a b/f or a husband or some guy in her life that she's seeing.

All these FRs of numbers from HB 9's are fairy tales. They either aren't 9s or are fking hookers.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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MisterMcGee

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lol BFs... I get looked at by girls with BFs all the time where I work.
 

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You don't need a girl to save your life. Especially a girlfriend. Having a girlfriend/wife is like catch-22. Depending on the chick, she may help or completely destroy your life.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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alnite said:
You don't need a girl to save your life. Especially a girlfriend. Having a girlfriend/wife is like catch-22. Depending on the chick, she may help or completely destroy your life.
What has that got to do with anything?

Anyway I think what the other dude is trying to say, is that boyfriends really do not matter. I hit on chicks all the time with boyfriends, once you learn to create your whole personality to be a certain way (Aka not using a switch..CHoosing to "Game" certrain people and not others), it shouldn't matter. You act the same to everyone, girls like you just for talking to them. I'm not saying try to hit on people with boyfriends, but really it shouldn't make ANY difference. Next time a chick tells you about her boyfriend just ignore it and keep talking to her. The other day I was talking to this girl and she exclaims "I have a boyfriend!" and I said, "Yeah I'll bet you do.." and gave her a weird look. Just kinda acted a bit distant, and a couple of minutes later she was by my side trying to get my attention again. She knew that she sounded weird by saying that, but most guys will just go :mad: and leave her alone.
 

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Jaggs said:
What has that got to do with anything?

Anyway I think what the other dude is trying to say, is that boyfriends really do not matter. I hit on chicks all the time with boyfriends, once you learn to create your whole personality to be a certain way (Aka not using a switch..CHoosing to "Game" certrain people and not others), it shouldn't matter. You act the same to everyone, girls like you just for talking to them. I'm not saying try to hit on people with boyfriends, but really it shouldn't make ANY difference. Next time a chick tells you about her boyfriend just ignore it and keep talking to her. The other day I was talking to this girl and she exclaims "I have a boyfriend!" and I said, "Yeah I'll bet you do.." and gave her a weird look. Just kinda acted a bit distant, and a couple of minutes later she was by my side trying to get my attention again. She knew that she sounded weird by saying that, but most guys will just go :mad: and leave her alone.
I had the same confusion. Depending on how you read the thread title it sounds like he wants a girl to "save his life."
 

guywhoneedshelp

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Attraction is not a choice.

Women break up with their boyfriends all the time. Do you really think these girls are all getting married to their boyfriends?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJVladdy

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My personal favorite is: oh gee, I'm already SORT OF SEEING someone

or

im KINDA DATING somebody

bytch stfu, dont lie to me like that
 

Poonani Maker

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alnite said:
You don't need a girl to save your life. Especially a girlfriend. Having a girlfriend/wife is like catch-22. Depending on the chick, she may help or completely destroy your life.
Yeah, they could cry "Rape!" even if you haven't kissed and you're fvcked in today's court system stacked against men.
 

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I subliminally hit on chicks with husbands and the husbands pick up on it and the next thing I know, he's bad-mouthing me to her, even though they're like 10-20 years older than me. Fvck, I don't care, if their husbands or boyfriends get jealous, fvck em. I'm not gonna lose any sleep over them. I am who I am.
 

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i really don't see the problem, as it was stated above, most chicks do already have something they're willing to call a "boyfriend". For all you really know it's a vibrating tongue machine.

even if it's a living breathing human being, you can't discount them just for that. You simply do not know what's going on in this chicks life. she could be saying 'Yeah i have a boyfriend" but thinking "i wish this guy would ask me out"

one chick i hooked up with on occasion actually confessed that to me a few months after. i had NO idea she had a boyfriend until i saw the dude stop by and pick her up one time.

I agree with you though, it's much better to find SINGLE chicks.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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