Can't figure out why I act this way

[RestUnknown]

Girl at work, not romantically interested but wouldn't say no if she wanted to f***.
So I try out new things on her, just as a test. But every single time when there is a girl who I get involved with, even if it's just a 'testsubject' sort to speak, there will be a day I feel the need to ignore her as much as possible.

I figured out I do this just so she would say something like "why do you do this, I don't like it, I like it better when you act normal". So I think it's a need for approval, of someone acknowledging they like me (even if it's just in a friendship way).

So yeah I did this with this girl at work, it was fun working with her, but now I kinda feel I ruined everything. At the start she still tried to engage me, but she just gave up after a while. I managed to save it a bit today and kinda acted normal towards the end (it was very hard for me to start acting normal again and I don't know why). I'll still have to work with her from time to time, so I think the best approach is to just keep acting normal like nothing happened?

But it will happen again that I 'want' to act this way. Is it just that need for approval that I want to get out of a girl by acting this way? I know it's pathetic and that I have a ridiculous long way to go before I become who I want to be, but you can imagine I get frustrated with myself. Is it perhaps something that happened in my childhood, that I didn't get enough approval and somehow got it by acting like that?

 

[AttackFormation]

Have you seen a therapist?

 

[soulforge]

I'm getting Troll vibes here.

In the chance you are genuine, this a serious case of insecurities!

You want her to NEED you.. You ignore her, so she gives chase, and that makes you feel better and wanted.

If you carry on down this road, your future relationships will end in disaster.

Nip it in the bud.. You need to build your self confidence and STOP seeking validation from woman.

Start hitting the gym, take on a hobby, build a strong social circle around yourself. Get a good Career!

STOP NEEDING WOMAN

 

[Billtx49]

First time I’ve heard of a man doing this kind of extreme push/pull…

 

[Bible_Belt]

"Girl at work" = sh!tting where you eat

 

[marvinlfloresq]

I'm getting Troll vibes here.

In the chance you are genuine, this a serious case of insecurities!

You want her to NEED you.. You ignore her, so she gives chase, and that makes you feel better and wanted.

If you carry on down this road, your future relationships will end in disaster.

Nip it in the bud.. You need to build your self confidence and STOP seeking validation from woman.

Start hitting the gym, take on a hobby, build a strong social circle around yourself. Get a good Career!

STOP NEEDING WOMAN

Has to be a Troll.

 

[RestUnknown]

Unfortunately not a troll. And yeah it is extreme but sometimes it works, I’ve had some gone crazy about it, mainly the ones with high IL. But I do it for the wrong reasons, and I don't know how to get rid of it. Well probably have more plates, but yeah, that's where the problem lies.