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Can't feel entitled to fvck your own wife in todays America

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One sets the vibe of a relationship in the beginning. She starts acting up, you put her on notice, happens again, you leave. If this happens in marriage, once again, you leave. It may hurt a bit, financially and emotionally, but most courts are now preferring 50/50 custody... At least in the New England States.
Yes divorce will take a rip out of a man. The more a man respects himself and the better he treats himself, the better life treats him in turn. The alternative is to complain about the ill treatment or do nothing about it, causing more of it to occur. Or to divorce and see all women as broken or bad and in turn thats all you attract and see. Or to keep complaining about women after your divorce, preserving your place in misery and limited thinking.

Our mind starts to construct the reality of what we are focused upon.
 

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When men don't stand up to their girlfriends and wives or show some spine, they develop this anger that weakens them. They become passive aggressive. They create this narrative that justifies cheating: "This b*tch. I bet she does it too!"

The woman, on the other hand, does it because she lost respect for her man. All those situations in which he hasn't stood up to her lead to her current state of pure disgust. She still gets her financial and/or emotional stability from him, but needs some fire and passion in her sexual life.

Why break up with him? He is something she knows. They can still cook together and talk about her problems. Hell, she might even tell him about the other guy from a third person perspective to get some advice from her husband.

So both parties keep up the appearance of a relationship due to societal standards. Everyone is watching; friends, family, even colleagues. His or her boss might ask how things at home are. Oh they split up? Something must be wrong with him/her. Those types of conclusions seem stupid and irrational, but they happen nonetheless. You can't influence how people react.
In many of the cases, the situation was about "control" from the get go. And if someone and their group is singularly focused on "controlling" you, that's what they are going to keep working on. You as a man have what choices in that case?
 

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Yes divorce will take a rip out of a man. The more a man respects himself and the better he treats himself, the better life treats him in turn. The alternative is to complain about the ill treatment or do nothing about it, causing more of it to occur. Or to divorce and see all women as broken or bad and in turn thats all you attract and see. Or to keep complaining about women after your divorce, preserving your place in misery and limited thinking.

Our mind starts to construct the reality of what we are focused upon.
Best not to put one's self in that position. Just say no to marriage.

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So it's politically incorrect to think you should have sexual priviledges with your own wife. A female friend of mines, has a bunch of male contacts and many
are complaining that their wives won't give them any sex. Months and months and months go by. Some of the men are starved out until death. Others leave. And yet others start taking care of themselves and "cheating", by getting sex outside the relationship.

The funny thing about the dynamic, is it's often much easier to fvck someones wife than a true single. So in effect the dynamic for the marrieds that do have sex, but are starved by their own wives is they fvck someone elses wife. So you get a wife, to take care of and be responsible for and if you want to "feel like a man" you fvck someone elses wife. Someone elses wife who often elevates you over her own husband, and elevates about any other man. While your wife, elevates other men over you, and desires other men.

It's all mixed up, but I didn't create this dynamic. For whatever reason, many women thought fvcking their own husbands was disgraceful or disempowering. She feels empowered from marginalizing him, cheating him. I can't understand why she can't just do someone outside the relationship like that to gain those feelings.
I just got thrown in Twitter jail for saying i hoped the NFL dies a slow monetary death LOL
which means i hope they go bankrupt.
Not america anymore
 

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I just got thrown in Twitter jail for saying i hoped the NFL dies a slow monetary death LOL
which means i hope they go bankrupt.
Not america anymore
Dude i just read some Quora responses about Will and Jada. The common response is she's not his property and can fvck and spend her money on whomever. Which is how much of the country feels. A few masculine guys piped up and said then what's the point of marriage or a relationship?
 

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Dude i just read some Quora responses about Will and Jada. The common response is she's not his property and can fvck and spend her money on whomever. Which is how much of the country feels. A few masculine guys piped up and said then what's the point of marriage or a relationship?
 

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Inb4 some retard reads your posts and say that you're mgtow agents trying to recruit people while you point out facts.
 

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Dude i just read some Quora responses about Will and Jada. The common response is she's not his property and can fvck and spend her money on whomever. Which is how much of the country feels. A few masculine guys piped up and said then what's the point of marriage or a relationship?
Exactly, asking the real questions here. Why even bother getting married.

I do believe a couples should have a healthy sex life, if the wife refuses to sleep with her husband then that is grounds for divorce and she should get nothing.
 

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All my wedding debts have been purged through a chapter 13 bankruptcy process. All my commitments to provide for my ex-wife (which I wasn't able to do in 2014) is purged. There is nothing linking me to 2014-marriage and eventually the debt entries will be removed from my bureau. Even the car I was riding in with her got totaled in 2019 and I got another one.

Still have some memorabilia, a wedding ring and some photos of the wedding and photo shots at a park just before. I am planning to get a divorce certificate (didn't get that yet) from the 6 year old divorce order since it should hopefully be accessible online and I wont have to travel to the court to get that.
 

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Kind judges in those states to enforce that part of the law. Its fair practice.
Believe it or not, female Judges are siding more and more for dudes than females.


All my wedding debts have been purged through a chapter 13 bankruptcy process. All my commitments to provide for my ex-wife (which I wasn't able to do in 2014) is purged. There is nothing linking me to 2014-marriage and eventually the debt entries will be removed from my bureau. Even the car I was riding in with her got totaled in 2019 and I got another one.

Still have some memorabilia, a wedding ring and some photos of the wedding and photo shots at a park just before. I am planning to get a divorce certificate (didn't get that yet) from the 6 year old divorce order since it should hopefully be accessible online and I wont have to travel to the court to get that.
You went into debt for your wedding?
 

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Believe it or not, female Judges are siding more and more for dudes than females.




You went into debt for your wedding?
I went into worst debt than I had before. The wedding and anything related to my ex wife is part of a very small.fraction of the overall mega debt. I was "forgiven" close to $135,000 out of a larger debt so in my mind I never did pay for those wedding expenses, etc... since the wrack up if far far less than that. This is what happens when you are income poor , have credit, and too much brains with credit for your own good. Had well over $120000 in debt and took out a new $30,000 car loan when I started dating my ex wife.
 

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I went into worst debt than I had before. The wedding and anything related to my ex wife is part of a very small.fraction of the overall mega debt. I was "forgiven" close to $135,000 out of a larger debt so in my mind I never did pay for those wedding expenses, etc... since the wrack up if far far less than that. This is what happens when you are income poor , have credit, and too much brains with credit for your own good. Had well over $120000 in debt and took out a new $30,000 car loan when I started dating my ex wife.
Need to watch that stuff. Never buy s hit you cannot afford to pay off at the end of the month; aside from one's education (in some cases) and real estate. Everything else is a deprecating asset.
 

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Need to watch that stuff. Never buy s hit you cannot afford to pay off at the end of the month; aside from one's education (in some cases) and real estate. Everything else is a deprecating asset.
Allot of debt wrack-up was based on legitimate expenses. Personal training in the gym, business expenses relating to being in a Remax Real-Estate office, advertising costs, etc.... again, if things do not work out at the end of the day you are stuck with a bill despite having the best of intentions. I'm not materialistic by any stretch and there was a rather modest lifestyle despite the large wrack-up of debt. The problem is you can't survive without income for a stretch of time period. I had no social support, welfare, and it was just do or die and I ended up with allot of debt in the end.

There is actually no regret to the wrack-up of unsecured debt since it was wracked-up over the space of 8 years before doing a chapter 13 bankruptcy. It's not like I had allot of credit cards, and went to bad credit after a year. 8 years is a good run-time before a crash of a system like that. With me it's not over as I'm going over journals over the life of the debt and crossing out all the commitments I've made to put that debt under control. Its a stretch between 2007 - 2015, starting with someone who signed me up for a BMO card at the mall in 2007 for a limit of $ 2,500.
 

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Allot of debt wrack-up was based on legitimate expenses. Personal training in the gym, business expenses relating to being in a Remax Real-Estate office, advertising costs, etc.... again, if things do not work out at the end of the day you are stuck with a bill despite having the best of intentions. I'm not materialistic by any stretch and there was a rather modest lifestyle despite the large wrack-up of debt. The problem is you can't survive without income for a stretch of time period. I had no social support, welfare, and it was just do or die and I ended up with allot of debt in the end.

There is actually no regret to the wrack-up of unsecured debt since it was wracked-up over the space of 8 years before doing a chapter 13 bankruptcy. It's not like I had allot of credit cards, and went to bad credit after a year. 8 years is a good run-time before a crash of a system like that. With me it's not over as I'm going over journals over the life of the debt and crossing out all the commitments I've made to put that debt under control. Its a stretch between 2007 - 2015, starting with someone who signed me up for a BMO card at the mall in 2007 for a limit of $ 2,500.
We live and learn. Our best teachers in life are our failures and mistakes...
 

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Hi guys. I like what you've got going on here. This is my first comment ever on this site. A couple of thoughts:

Why would you ever feel entitled to sex? Why wouldn't you want someone who feels genuine desire for you, or least someone who is genuinely committed to your well-being?

People are finally waking up to the fact that monogamy and commitment are not natural, they're conscious decisions you make. Probably best if everyone goes to marriage counseling and discusses the big issues (money, sex, kids) with their partners before getting married.

E.g. Ask her what her plan is if she ever stops wanting to have sex with you. Is she feminist? Does she believe she can do whatever she wants with her body? Is she really committing to you for better or worse, or is she going to be a fair weather wife?
 

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I went into worst debt than I had before. The wedding and anything related to my ex wife is part of a very small.fraction of the overall mega debt. I was "forgiven" close to $135,000 out of a larger debt so in my mind I never did pay for those wedding expenses, etc... since the wrack up if far far less than that. This is what happens when you are income poor , have credit, and too much brains with credit for your own good. Had well over $120000 in debt and took out a new $30,000 car loan when I started dating my ex wife.
Do you think you ever fully recovered from that divorce?
 
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