"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Can't decipher her motives

originaldj

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Hello gentlemen,

I met a girl a couple months ago and we really hit it off. She is pretty awesome and a quality person. As is the norm, she has a boyfriend. I have done my best to be respectful but we still hang out fairly regularly and everything is cool.

Anyways, she called me today and invited me to go to an amusement park with her as well as her mom and sister. I really don't get her motives. I don't understand if it is a sign that she likes me, because she has plenty of girl friends that she could have asked if she was just looking to go with a friend. But at the same time her mom knows I am not her boyfriend and I feel like if she does like me, she would at least try to keep it a secret from her parents, so they don't think their daughter is cheating. In your opinion is this more likely a sign she wants me or rather that she just thinks of me as friend?

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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molloy

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That just sounds weird, in my opinion, especially since the mom is there (wtf why?) Tell her no, propose a different event, and if she says no to that, then just don't even bother with her. There are so many girls who don't have boyfriends, who are willing to hang out and fvck. Having to overcome the boyfriend obstacle is just too much work, unless you think you actually want to LTR this girl. Also you're getting way too close to friendzone territory if you go. I say forget the whole thing and sarge somewhere.
 

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Ya, I am definitely not going. I don't need to go through the stress of meeting a girls parents if I am not even dating her. I was just more curious as to why she would ask me in the first place. I feel like I made it fairly clear through my actions that I don't plan on just being friends with her.
 

zekko

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She could be auditioning you for a branch swing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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originaldj said:
Ya, I am definitely not going. I don't need to go through the stress of meeting a girls parents if I am not even dating her. I was just more curious as to why she would ask me in the first place. I feel like I made it fairly clear through my actions that I don't plan on just being friends with her.
How old/young are you guys?

Either way, I don't see this as a sign of attraction. Seems like more of a sign of friendship.

Anyway, you're doing the right thing by not going. If you want a girl, isolate her. Definitely don't go to amusement parks with her and her parents.
 

originaldj

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I am 22 and she just turned 20.

I feel like at this point I am either far in the friendzone or the exact opposite. Time will tell
 
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