I'm just wondering what to do with these girls that apparently don't see me in a sexual way. It seems that most of the girls I meet are like this. Maybe they flake. Maybe they do like this one girl and never want to meet up but will talk to me on msn and talk about ****ing other guys (really? I've honestly don't care anymore and just say outrageous stuff to get a reaction out of her). Most of the time I just next them, but it's starting to get annoying (because I'm nexting girls fast, sometimes I run out of numbers). Am I supposed to just keep meeting women til I meet one that is into me from the get go? Or is there a way to fix one of these lost causes and maybe get her interested in me?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Can you turn around situations where a girl doesn't see you in a sexual way?
- Thread starter Scion
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
and then you sayScion said:I'm just wondering what to do with these girls that apparently don't see me in a sexual way.
WTF ARE YOU DOING TALKING TO B|TCHES ON MSN??????Maybe they do like this one girl and never want to meet up but will talk to me on msn and talk about ****ing other guys
Let me guess you asked for their msn right? don't lie brother i know it. Stop using facebook/msn/myspace with girls you're trying to dig out! You're out to be their lover not their friend chatting with them over texts like one of their girlfriends.
You think the douchebags with the hb 9's at the club spend their time chatting girls up on msn hoping to get a date? that's for losers who want to get in the friend zone which is what you're getting yourself in to.
It's not that difficult
1. get their number
2. call them, chat them up a bit, ask them out
3. Use the 2 strikes rule
4. Repeat process
5. Stop complicating your life.
oh yeah delete your facebook/msn/myspace and make new ones and just keep those to your close friends (friends not women you are trying to dig out). You are not out to make friends with women you are out to be their possible lover so start acting like one.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I don't normally add girls on msn. The only times I do is when that's the only way I have to contact them. This girl had her cell cancelled when I met her so she added me on msn instead. And another girl I had on there had added me because her cell was broken when we met, but she have me her number as soon as she got it fixed (less than a week later).f283000 said:and then you say
WTF ARE YOU DOING TALKING TO B|TCHES ON MSN??????
Let me guess you asked for their msn right? don't lie brother i know it. Stop using facebook/msn/myspace with girls you're trying to dig out! You're out to be their lover not their friend chatting with them over texts like one of their girlfriends.
You think the douchebags with the hb 9's at the club spend their time chatting girls up on msn hoping to get a date? that's for losers who want to get in the friend zone which is what you're getting yourself in to.
It's not that difficult
1. get their number
2. call them, chat them up a bit, ask them out
3. Use the 2 strikes rule
4. Repeat process
5. Stop complicating your life.
oh yeah delete your facebook/msn/myspace and make new ones and just keep those to your close friends (friends not women you are trying to dig out). You are not out to make friends with women you are out to be their possible lover so start acting like one.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Spot-on. +1f283000 said:WTF ARE YOU DOING TALKING TO B|TCHES ON MSN??????
Let me guess you asked for their msn right? don't lie brother i know it. Stop using facebook/msn/myspace with girls you're trying to dig out! You're out to be their lover not their friend chatting with them over texts like one of their girlfriends.
You think the douchebags with the hb 9's at the club spend their time chatting girls up on msn hoping to get a date? that's for losers who want to get in the friend zone which is what you're getting yourself in to.
It's not that difficult
1. get their number
2. call them, chat them up a bit, ask them out
3. Use the 2 strikes rule
4. Repeat process
5. Stop complicating your life.
oh yeah delete your facebook/msn/myspace and make new ones and just keep those to your close friends (friends not women you are trying to dig out). You are not out to make friends with women you are out to be their possible lover so start acting like one.
To answer the OP's question, yes you can excite her sexually even if you haven't before.
There's a whole ton of stuff on this site about it, do some research. I mean that's basically why we're here.
Some super quick tips:
NC for a few months
Spin plates
Tell her you're not interested either
etc.
Most of it is just common sense. My best tip is only worry about improving yourself, don't focus on her and just give it time.