AgentofChaos
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I've never experienced being raised by a single mom. Can you tell me how it is and how it affected you growing up as a man?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Can you tell me how it is being raised by a single mom?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I was mostly raised by my mother. My father stays abroad 11months out of 12 and now it is for almost 30years. one thing that I struggled initially a lot and hated Is being fearful of doing normal things and always felt like being taken advantage off. Something I’ve observed in her. Though I no longer feel that anymore but I’m always very cautious about my actions.
Black Widow Void
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Due to court custody battles and the woman normally getting awarded, such was the case with me.
I was brought up more on sensitivity and empathy. Also to be a 'gentleman.' In small doses, I think this is okay. However, when it's in excess, this is unhealthy for a boy / young man.
The worst part?
My mother didn't do a lot of revolving door dating but the men I did meet (and also her future husband) were "pleasers." These were poor role models.
I'm really surprised that I averaged a new girlfriend each school year. I think I was above average looking which probably played a role. I wasn't overly masculine - that's for sure.
After getting tired of making excuses for female behavior and observing male friends that were achieving the end result faster and with less headaches, I spent my past time doing a whole lot of self-reflecting. Through those late teen years, I 'unwove' that motherly influential tapestry. To this day, I don't get any kick out of making a woman (or anyone) feel bad, but during my transformation period, I started looking after myself. I didn't want to feel bad either.
I was brought up more on sensitivity and empathy. Also to be a 'gentleman.' In small doses, I think this is okay. However, when it's in excess, this is unhealthy for a boy / young man.
The worst part?
My mother didn't do a lot of revolving door dating but the men I did meet (and also her future husband) were "pleasers." These were poor role models.
I'm really surprised that I averaged a new girlfriend each school year. I think I was above average looking which probably played a role. I wasn't overly masculine - that's for sure.
After getting tired of making excuses for female behavior and observing male friends that were achieving the end result faster and with less headaches, I spent my past time doing a whole lot of self-reflecting. Through those late teen years, I 'unwove' that motherly influential tapestry. To this day, I don't get any kick out of making a woman (or anyone) feel bad, but during my transformation period, I started looking after myself. I didn't want to feel bad either.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
AgentofChaos
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Reported for being a meanie.
It doesn’t matter, anyone can blame their fvcked up adult state of mind on their childhood circumstances, my brother does for minor reasons. Adolescent years with in house beta dad or no dad present at all has no impact on what you want to become in life.
Many childhood abuse victims can and do overcome their ingrained tendency to abuse their own children when they become parents simply based on their own mindset and personal determination Not to repeat their past…
Many childhood abuse victims can and do overcome their ingrained tendency to abuse their own children when they become parents simply based on their own mindset and personal determination Not to repeat their past…
redskinsfan92
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My parents are still married. My dad never has done household chores such as washing dishes, laundry, cooking, etc. Holds frame for sure. Wish I would have learned more from his actions sooner.