Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
yeah, I'll practice with girls I'm interested in too. But we've already made plans to go out, so why not get some practice out of it too. I like hanging with this girl, we've done it once before but we didn't spend much time alone because one of her friends kept stalking us, lol.Gangster Of Love said:LoL. She's not looking to trade up? They are ALWAYS LOOKING TO TRADE UP, as long as they are convinced it would be a trade up. Anyway, that's not the point here.
If you are exclusively chilling with a taken girl or somebody you are not interested in during the weekend, that is not practicing, that is wasting time or pursuing. Stop that. You will most likely get serious one-itis faster than you think.
Why don't you "practice" with MANY other girls, including her, that way you won't have ring rust when you meet someone you actually want, or better yet, why don't you practice with girls you actually are interested in? There are no losses, only new skills learned.
I was in a bad mood, my view had slightly improved by then. And how do you get oneitis from hanging out once 4 months ago?Gangster Of Love said:One-itis.
You like hanging with this girl because you think you can bang her and want to bang her. That is no practice.
Aren't you the one who was done with this site?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ha, who said she asked me to hang out. So next you'll tell me that if we hang out I'll get shot or something? We're hanging out, not fvcking. I'm not gonna not hang out with girls because they have a boyfriend, that's not very social behaviour. But then again what do I know, right?Gangster Of Love said:You tell me.
You will hang out with her whenever she decides you two will hang out.
Go get your own chick, seriously guy.
but you didn't offer an advice, all you did was say don't bother hanging out with her. That's your advice?Gangster Of Love said:I never said she asked you. I said, SHE DECIDES!
You ask, ask, ask, ask, for the past whatever months. You two hang out when you ask, and she happens to say yes. She is deciding. That is not good practice.
More social, and much better is to "hang out" with girls who don't have a boyfriend. Just a concept I'm throwing out there for you. Might actually make some sense.
Something tells me that women you surround yourself with in your life usually decided when and how. That's exactly why you are here, to learn and to look at things from a different way you wouldn't on your own. That's why I point it out.
It's alright man, you don't have to listen to anything I say. Looks like you already got an answer to everything and anything somebody advices you on, and justification for everything you do. Let me jus task you, how is your approach and style working out for you so far?
Obviously, nobody else is taking you too serious here anymore, and I am the only fool responding to this thread of yours, as I hadn't realized you are the one with that other thread on hating this site. I am among the last to catch on. Hadn't heard of you, so I offered some advice. Have a limit of posts per day, so I will save the advice for somebody who is ready and willing to hear it.
All The Best.
Btw, I wasn't trolling. I was asking a honest question til you started insulting me. I don't come here to be insulted. I honestly have a serious problem with women and only asked if it would be a good idea to practice on a woman I'm not pursuing. Obviously that's not a good idea so I won't. And I'll even take your advice and just call her and tell her it's off now.Gangster of Love said:You are a true ingrate. Disregard any of the "not too useful advice I gave you". just keep doing what you've been doing. I am sure it is working for you.
You can delete your account or just not post. Stop trolling.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.