I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
yeah, I'll practice with girls I'm interested in too. But we've already made plans to go out, so why not get some practice out of it too. I like hanging with this girl, we've done it once before but we didn't spend much time alone because one of her friends kept stalking us, lol.Gangster Of Love said:LoL. She's not looking to trade up? They are ALWAYS LOOKING TO TRADE UP, as long as they are convinced it would be a trade up. Anyway, that's not the point here.
If you are exclusively chilling with a taken girl or somebody you are not interested in during the weekend, that is not practicing, that is wasting time or pursuing. Stop that. You will most likely get serious one-itis faster than you think.
Why don't you "practice" with MANY other girls, including her, that way you won't have ring rust when you meet someone you actually want, or better yet, why don't you practice with girls you actually are interested in? There are no losses, only new skills learned.
I was in a bad mood, my view had slightly improved by then. And how do you get oneitis from hanging out once 4 months ago?Gangster Of Love said:One-itis.
You like hanging with this girl because you think you can bang her and want to bang her. That is no practice.
Aren't you the one who was done with this site?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ha, who said she asked me to hang out. So next you'll tell me that if we hang out I'll get shot or something? We're hanging out, not fvcking. I'm not gonna not hang out with girls because they have a boyfriend, that's not very social behaviour. But then again what do I know, right?Gangster Of Love said:You tell me.
You will hang out with her whenever she decides you two will hang out.
Go get your own chick, seriously guy.
but you didn't offer an advice, all you did was say don't bother hanging out with her. That's your advice?Gangster Of Love said:I never said she asked you. I said, SHE DECIDES!
You ask, ask, ask, ask, for the past whatever months. You two hang out when you ask, and she happens to say yes. She is deciding. That is not good practice.
More social, and much better is to "hang out" with girls who don't have a boyfriend. Just a concept I'm throwing out there for you. Might actually make some sense.
Something tells me that women you surround yourself with in your life usually decided when and how. That's exactly why you are here, to learn and to look at things from a different way you wouldn't on your own. That's why I point it out.
It's alright man, you don't have to listen to anything I say. Looks like you already got an answer to everything and anything somebody advices you on, and justification for everything you do. Let me jus task you, how is your approach and style working out for you so far?
Obviously, nobody else is taking you too serious here anymore, and I am the only fool responding to this thread of yours, as I hadn't realized you are the one with that other thread on hating this site. I am among the last to catch on. Hadn't heard of you, so I offered some advice. Have a limit of posts per day, so I will save the advice for somebody who is ready and willing to hear it.
All The Best.
Btw, I wasn't trolling. I was asking a honest question til you started insulting me. I don't come here to be insulted. I honestly have a serious problem with women and only asked if it would be a good idea to practice on a woman I'm not pursuing. Obviously that's not a good idea so I won't. And I'll even take your advice and just call her and tell her it's off now.Gangster of Love said:You are a true ingrate. Disregard any of the "not too useful advice I gave you". just keep doing what you've been doing. I am sure it is working for you.
You can delete your account or just not post. Stop trolling.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.