"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Can you hang out with a girl too much when you are building comfort?

Canadian Catnip

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I have a friend that met a girl who works at a coffee shop. He seems to have hit it off with her and he goes in there about 3 or 4 times a week in order to chat with her.

She doesn't seem to mind his company and he likes chatting with her. I told him that he is interrupting her while she is working and he is being a little too clingy and AFC. He seems to think they are building rapport.

So is there a point in comfort building when hanging out with a girl almost every day is no longer seen by her as clingy?

I see other guys do this all the time. Visit girls they know who are working at coffee shops, juice bars, book stores etc.

So is this OK or should you always give her the gift of missing you?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dark Chivalry

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If he does not ask her out on dates, he'll easily end up in the friend/customer zone.

He can go there when he feels like drinking a coffee, but getting to know her is better done on dates when he has her undivided attention. Plus, you can't really kiss her at work.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Canadian Catnip said:
....So is there a point in comfort building when hanging out with a girl almost every day is no longer seen by her as clingy?...
Clingy is never good. What makes it worse is when you're not dating. Get a life, have some friends, get a hobby; don't make her existence the purpose of yours. Make the time that you do spend together special.
 

Obsidian

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I'd visit her 3-5 times TOTAL before getting her # (or just inviting her somewhere specific). Less, if it's not a place you like to go to often.
 
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