"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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can you go through your day with out cussing?

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I have been thinking about this for awhile. See to me its impossible. Im not sure why. I mean my parents dont cuss and I really dont hang out with many of my buddies. well when im around chicks I try not to cuss. But sometimes it does slip out. To me cussing relives stress. Maybe but im not sure on that one. Some days I try to go through the day without cussing but its impossible.

So I have a few questions. Is it possible to go through the day without cussing for you? and should you not cuss infront of chicks?

Please help.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hahah, :up:, definitely a dude question!! Men are aggressive beasts and vent verbally to express their mental and physical distress!! It is natural but not encouraged!
 
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I go through phases. Some days, I cuss up a storm. Other days, I don't say one bad word.

For me, it does all seem to correlate with my stress level. During the summer, when my stress was real low, I hardly cussed. Now that semester has started back up, I've been cussing up a storm.
 
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avrilishot said:
I have been thinking about this for awhile. See to me its impossible. Im not sure why. I mean my parents dont cuss and I really dont hang out with many of my buddies. well when im around chicks I try not to cuss. But sometimes it does slip out. To me cussing relives stress. Maybe but im not sure on that one. Some days I try to go through the day without cussing but its impossible.

So I have a few questions. Is it possible to go through the day without cussing for you? and should you not cuss infront of chicks?

Please help.
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Hells yeah! Of course it's possible to go through a fvcking day without cussing, motherfvcker!!!
 
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its impossible for me. Over my years in high school i tried to cut back and stop in respect for girls I was dating or not to cuss around them and it was tough but doable. Now that I'm in college though fvck it I'm worse then ever especially living with the roommates I got thats all we do is cuss at each other in a brotherly friendly way
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Very hard for me. I can't even cut it down to zero with the 'rents.
The only thing that can get me to stop cussing, is if I'm with a girl that I'm not entirely sure how she'd take it/she's judging me. I'll be very careful in my words then..
 
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It can be hot when a girl swears.

I used to swear so much that I had to concentrate to not swear in front of the 'rents. This led to me having strong compulsions to just say 'fvck' out loud, but I couldnt coz I would get in trouble.
 
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[S]alvatore said:
Fu<k no.
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I knew someone would say that lame joke... way overused. To me cussing shows immaturity, I rarely swear in public since I believe it degrades my standards. It's not attractive for girls to swear out load in public... shows no self-control. If it's in the bedroom... it's fine by me. :rolleyes:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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PeterNorthisawesome said:
It's not attractive for girls to swear out load in public... shows no self-control. If it's in the bedroom... it's fine by me. :rolleyes:
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I totally agree with you on that! I will not date a girl who constantly swears... It's a turn-off to me... In the sack, sure!! But other than that, shows she doesn't have self control, yeah...
 
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yes, having a dirty mouth is not and will never be a turn on. Unless you are in bed with a chick and she plain out says "fvck me like a wh0re you fvckin b1tch" then it will be an exception IMO :drool:
 
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I totally agree with you on that! I will not date a girl who constantly swears... It's a turn-off to me... In the sack, sure!! But other than that, shows she doesn't have self control, yeah...
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It takes hardly any effort to cuss, I'd rather hear a well constructed sentence and leave the cursing to times when it's absolutely necessary. Besides, if you curse all of the time, how do people take you seriously when you really have the need to curse?
 
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its impossible for me. and I have tried.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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