"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Can you gain confidence by just saying '**** it'
- Thread starter alx
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Serenity
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Confidence is somewhere in between arrogance and humility. Thinking you're great at everything and ignoring everyone else is arrogant. Thinking you svck at everything and believing everyone else is too humble, naive actually. Confidence is knowing when to be arrogant and when to be humble. Knowing what you know and what you don't know. Knowing when to teach and when to learn.
I always try to understand and consider what people tell me, but after consideration I don't always agree. I weigh their view against my own to see which one fit reality the best. I use scientific principles to determine which one is more accurate. I'm not always right and I'm not always wrong. Confidence isn't black and white.