"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Can you gain confidence by just saying '**** it'
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Serenity
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Confidence is somewhere in between arrogance and humility. Thinking you're great at everything and ignoring everyone else is arrogant. Thinking you svck at everything and believing everyone else is too humble, naive actually. Confidence is knowing when to be arrogant and when to be humble. Knowing what you know and what you don't know. Knowing when to teach and when to learn.
I always try to understand and consider what people tell me, but after consideration I don't always agree. I weigh their view against my own to see which one fit reality the best. I use scientific principles to determine which one is more accurate. I'm not always right and I'm not always wrong. Confidence isn't black and white.