"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can you ever sleep with too many women?

OnTheWayUp

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Gents,

We on this board are most often concerned with helping our fellow men find success with women. Very often, this involves an AFC who is obsessed with "this one girl," who is in a toxic relationship, or who is pursuing a girl who does not reciprocate his interest. Spin more plates, experience lots of different women and don't limit your options unnecessarily is the advice you read over and over again. For this reason, the question I am asking in this thread might seem a strange one.

I am thinking about this particular issue as a result of reading this article this morning, which some of the other British readers may well have seen as well: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-16469222.

The article describes the experiences of a British comedian in his early 30s who, on his own admission, has slept with over 300 women. Watch some of his videos on youtube and you'll quickly see why: his body language and general way of speaking are superb. I have read several times on here and elsewhere that you can laugh your way into a chick's panties- this man is living proof.

There is a lot of shaming language in the article if you read it carefully. The comedian "wants to confront his problem," and describes how his ex-girlfriends (note the female victim mentality) called him "selfish," "self-centred" etc. Anyone who reads Rollo's blog will understand that a certain amount of this is due to the comedian's complete disregard for the female biological imperative up till now. Whilst the comedian's contemporaries are thinking about settling down, he himself is going from woman to woman with consummate ease.

But is there more to it than that? Is it possible to reach a point where the negative side of banging more women outweighs the positives? My virginity was taken last year by a girl who, in the indirect way that only a woman can speak, confessed she was a slut. On her own admission, she needs sex every 2 weeks to survive. Having had more experience with women since, I have noticed that the ability of my first girl to bond emotionally after getting physical was almost non-existant compared to some of the other girls I have dated. Does the same thing apply to men who reach a certain amount of sexual partners?

Experiencing multiple women has many benefits of which the blue pill man is completely ignorant. You learn how to attract different types of girl, you learn what you are looking for in a long-term partner, you learn to see red flags quickly, etc etc. But is there a notch count where the negatives outweigh the positives?

Discuss.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Perhaps. When things come easy or you've had so much of something, you tend to get bored with them and search for the elusive "more".
 

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OnTheWayUp said:
But is there more to it than that? Is it possible to reach a point where the negative side of banging more women outweighs the positives? My virginity was taken last year by a girl who, in the indirect way that only a woman can speak, confessed she was a slut. On her own admission, she needs sex every 2 weeks to survive. Having had more experience with women since, I have noticed that the ability of my first girl to bond emotionally after getting physical was almost non-existant compared to some of the other girls I have dated. Does the same thing apply to men who reach a certain amount of sexual partners?
I will say that once I realized the abundance of available (and unavailable) women making sex accessible to me, the emotional value of sex declined a bit. On a human scale, I care about these chicks (even the skanks). But that dreamy romantic connection that AFCs believe in is no longer a part of my journey.

Part of me wishes it were, because it's nice to believe that after a life of working hard, traveling, learning, etc, there will be some great woman to share it with. But I've become so good at not needing this hypothetical woman.

I guess I'd compare it to a kid who learns that Santa isn't real. You appreciate the knowledge of seeing the world for what it is, but you still fondly remember the magic of being naive and young.
 

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If you end up with an STD or getting a girl pregnant, I'd say that's one woman too many.
 

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zekko said:
If you end up with an STD or getting a girl pregnant, I'd say that's one woman too many.
ha ha, thats what I was going to say!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hell no.

Until the day your dik gets deformed or you've caught a STD.

Protect before you wreck. Always.
 
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