"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Can you ever go back?

silverfox

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OK, I was out Christmas shopping today and of all places I visited a flashy baby clothes store to get a present for a friend's baby daughter.

There were two cute girls in their early twenties working in the store and I was the only customer. As soon as I walked in one of the girls came over to help me.

I happened to mention the baby I was buying for had been born the same time I was overseas. The girl started asking me all about my trip and said she wanted to visit those places.

As soon as I paid and left I realised I had lost my shopping list so I popped back quickly and the girl came to help me look for it but no joy.

I left again and then clicked that I had been getting some interest from her but I was too caught up in my shopping to realise at the time (D'OH!)

Now if I went back and asked her for her number or asked her out for coffee I think my odds are good. After all, most of the guys she will meet through work are buying for their own kids.

Do you think this is worth going back for or should I just file it under missed opportunity and move on?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'd say give it a shot, there is no harm in doing it. And at least it sends a message to your brain that you deserve the girls you really find attractive, and that you're not afraid to do something about it.
 

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Ha - no chocolate bars in the baby store. I would like to go back. I think it's worth a shot although it might not be until after Christmas now.

If only I had been switched on an in approach mode as I usually am all weekend. :rolleyes:
 
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