For goodness sakes,
stop online dating.
It's a fvcking circus not representative of real life. Ditch the internet in general. Stop reading any incel stuff about ""looksmaxing"" or whatever other rubbish. Just the fact that I have even heard of this "incel" stuff is a complete besmirchment.
It's a disgrace, and adds jack sh1t to anyone's life.
Focus on creating and maintaining relationships with good friends and good family instead. The woman stuff sorts itself. Yeah, there's a hell of a load more to this than that, but if you haven't had a few girlfriends yet, then stick to good life fundamentals (that not being scumming around on tinder for a legover with an older woman whilst "looksmaxing").
You basically rarely hear that on the net, because most are introverts who want the computer to do everything for them. I get it, because i'm an introvert also. But my dad used to kick me out of the house when I was playing the mega-drive all day. That's what is really needed.
Tldr? Delete the apps. Make some decent friends.