"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can you actually BUY affection?

christz

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The debate is strong, that a young girls (age 20-25) affection can be BOUGHT. What's the take on this.. if you have a FB relationship which is pretty much completely on the surface with NO depth.

and yet your trying to make it deeper and its going nowhere.. can you buy a girls affection by taking her on extravagant trips like Hawaii or buying her expensive gifts?

to me this seems like it would backfire in your face and I haven't seen this method work at all on any girl. They just enjoy the ride and freely accept any and all gifts before booting you to the curb. But maybe there's somebody else out there who can add something new to this debate.

my stand is.. if the girl is just sleeping with you and talking to other men, making plans with other men its impossible to buy her love/affection. PERIOD
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Nope. Can't be done.

You can buy her time and company, which is basically what you're doing by spending all that money on her.
 

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That's why most women feel uncomfortable with the supplicatign AFC whom feels he can "impress" a woman with gifts, and things like that.
NUmber one rule...
Do not go by the notion that you are trying to attract a woman with your wallet and checkbook.
Throw that stupid idea out the window.
When you come friom the lowly level of having to buy her things to show your value, you are showing you don';t believe you have REAL Value.
You have to have confidenc in yourself, and ambition in your life, and passion and pursuits, hobbies and interests....you must.

Your SELF is what has value.

AND YOUR SELF is what has the "potential" that women are scanning you for.

You are offering YOUR SELF.......not your WALLET.

Men who don't value themselves offer their wallet and everything but them SELVES.

And that guys is called the what?



EVERYONE SCREAMS: "NOT ME, INTERCEPTOR! NOT ME! NO FVCKING WAY!"



Good job.
 

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so far the consensus is NO, I've googled and its also no this is sited by psychologist and sociologist alike that it cannot be done, somebody will either like you or they won't.

All you end up doing is having debt up to your eyeballs and nothing to show for it. if a girl is refusing to see your family, refusing to call you a boyfriend, refusing to spend any money on you except on a few given instances (birthday, a food item) and you think spending MORE time with that person and up the stakes by buying her insane gifts and trips to exotic locations.. all your doing is making yourself look like a damn idiot.

For reference,
I have a friend who've I have tried time and time again to tell that he is getting NOWHERE fast with his current FB relationship. The girl is just taking him for a ride.. he thinks because he's sleeping with her on a semi regular basis that she is in love with him or falling.. and yet she REFUSES to even be a part of his life.. I think this woman has only seen his place maybe twice in the 5-6 months they've been "seeing" each other. I need to either slap the shyt outta him or just show him some refrence material.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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KillaPetehog said:
You cannot buy affection. :D

But you can buy a hore. :D

Any woman who just wants you for your money is a hore. :D
And any female who wants you because you have nice abs or a big **** is a man.
 

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Since this is far from a tip, it's making it's way to Discussion.

You can buy you thread back to Tips though, if you want.
 

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i dont know....

i mean when u had a meal on somebody else ticket or a free ride in a nice car...

you kinda feel some attachment to those things and that person..

i mean isnt it some sort of ancestrol our notion of frst date with a meal
 

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No, you can't BUY love or affection...

But you can rent it for a low down payment and reasonable monthly rates!:crackup:
 

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well heres the REA
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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HERE IS THE REAL REALITY-you can buy her time.........and with enough time exposure.......you will eventually land her.

So ya enough money WILL in fact seduce most women. MONEY EQUALS POWER and with enough money life is soooooo much more fun.

Its just another tool to give you an edge......does it mean women will automatically run to you .........HELL NO, but dont believe the hype about money does not buy affection..........theres PLENTY of money hungry chics out there.
 

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COD said:
HERE IS THE REAL REALITY-you can buy her time.........and with enough time exposure.......you will eventually land her.

So ya enough money WILL in fact seduce most women. MONEY EQUALS POWER and with enough money life is soooooo much more fun.

Its just another tool to give you an edge......does it mean women will automatically run to you .........HELL NO, but dont believe the hype about money does not buy affection..........theres PLENTY of money hungry chics out there.
Yeah, I suppose this could be true. With money you can buy time and time equals investment. The more invested a girl is the better, and yes money IS an aphrodisiac. No question about that.
 

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but the thing about it is, is she talks shyt on him all the time, about his clingyness, his personality and while he's a friend let me tell you it sucks.. he has no depth of character. in fact they've been constantly fighting and on the out for a while now.. and it was then where he started to buy lavish gifts and may even book a trip to hawaii for 5 grand. Is she paying a damn cent? nope..

tell me what's wrong with this picture? lol
 

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You can't buy it. You can reward it for good behavior at times, but thoughtful gifts get you farther than expensive ones.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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christz said:
The debate is strong, that a young girls (age 20-25) affection can be BOUGHT. What's the take on this.. if you have a FB relationship which is pretty much completely on the surface with NO depth.

and yet your trying to make it deeper and its going nowhere.. can you buy a girls affection by taking her on extravagant trips like Hawaii or buying her expensive gifts?

to me this seems like it would backfire in your face and I haven't seen this method work at all on any girl. They just enjoy the ride and freely accept any and all gifts before booting you to the curb. But maybe there's somebody else out there who can add something new to this debate.

my stand is.. if the girl is just sleeping with you and talking to other men, making plans with other men its impossible to buy her love/affection. PERIOD
LOOOL a trip to hawaii? gd! sounds like whoever though of that one needs the wuss beat out of em!!!
 
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