"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can you actually BUY affection?

christz

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The debate is strong, that a young girls (age 20-25) affection can be BOUGHT. What's the take on this.. if you have a FB relationship which is pretty much completely on the surface with NO depth.

and yet your trying to make it deeper and its going nowhere.. can you buy a girls affection by taking her on extravagant trips like Hawaii or buying her expensive gifts?

to me this seems like it would backfire in your face and I haven't seen this method work at all on any girl. They just enjoy the ride and freely accept any and all gifts before booting you to the curb. But maybe there's somebody else out there who can add something new to this debate.

my stand is.. if the girl is just sleeping with you and talking to other men, making plans with other men its impossible to buy her love/affection. PERIOD
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Fist_of_Fury

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Nope. Can't be done.

You can buy her time and company, which is basically what you're doing by spending all that money on her.
 

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That's why most women feel uncomfortable with the supplicatign AFC whom feels he can "impress" a woman with gifts, and things like that.
NUmber one rule...
Do not go by the notion that you are trying to attract a woman with your wallet and checkbook.
Throw that stupid idea out the window.
When you come friom the lowly level of having to buy her things to show your value, you are showing you don';t believe you have REAL Value.
You have to have confidenc in yourself, and ambition in your life, and passion and pursuits, hobbies and interests....you must.

Your SELF is what has value.

AND YOUR SELF is what has the "potential" that women are scanning you for.

You are offering YOUR SELF.......not your WALLET.

Men who don't value themselves offer their wallet and everything but them SELVES.

And that guys is called the what?



EVERYONE SCREAMS: "NOT ME, INTERCEPTOR! NOT ME! NO FVCKING WAY!"



Good job.
 

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so far the consensus is NO, I've googled and its also no this is sited by psychologist and sociologist alike that it cannot be done, somebody will either like you or they won't.

All you end up doing is having debt up to your eyeballs and nothing to show for it. if a girl is refusing to see your family, refusing to call you a boyfriend, refusing to spend any money on you except on a few given instances (birthday, a food item) and you think spending MORE time with that person and up the stakes by buying her insane gifts and trips to exotic locations.. all your doing is making yourself look like a damn idiot.

For reference,
I have a friend who've I have tried time and time again to tell that he is getting NOWHERE fast with his current FB relationship. The girl is just taking him for a ride.. he thinks because he's sleeping with her on a semi regular basis that she is in love with him or falling.. and yet she REFUSES to even be a part of his life.. I think this woman has only seen his place maybe twice in the 5-6 months they've been "seeing" each other. I need to either slap the shyt outta him or just show him some refrence material.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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KillaPetehog said:
You cannot buy affection. :D

But you can buy a hore. :D

Any woman who just wants you for your money is a hore. :D
And any female who wants you because you have nice abs or a big **** is a man.
 

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Since this is far from a tip, it's making it's way to Discussion.

You can buy you thread back to Tips though, if you want.
 

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i dont know....

i mean when u had a meal on somebody else ticket or a free ride in a nice car...

you kinda feel some attachment to those things and that person..

i mean isnt it some sort of ancestrol our notion of frst date with a meal
 

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No, you can't BUY love or affection...

But you can rent it for a low down payment and reasonable monthly rates!:crackup:
 

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well heres the REA
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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HERE IS THE REAL REALITY-you can buy her time.........and with enough time exposure.......you will eventually land her.

So ya enough money WILL in fact seduce most women. MONEY EQUALS POWER and with enough money life is soooooo much more fun.

Its just another tool to give you an edge......does it mean women will automatically run to you .........HELL NO, but dont believe the hype about money does not buy affection..........theres PLENTY of money hungry chics out there.
 

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COD said:
HERE IS THE REAL REALITY-you can buy her time.........and with enough time exposure.......you will eventually land her.

So ya enough money WILL in fact seduce most women. MONEY EQUALS POWER and with enough money life is soooooo much more fun.

Its just another tool to give you an edge......does it mean women will automatically run to you .........HELL NO, but dont believe the hype about money does not buy affection..........theres PLENTY of money hungry chics out there.
Yeah, I suppose this could be true. With money you can buy time and time equals investment. The more invested a girl is the better, and yes money IS an aphrodisiac. No question about that.
 

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but the thing about it is, is she talks shyt on him all the time, about his clingyness, his personality and while he's a friend let me tell you it sucks.. he has no depth of character. in fact they've been constantly fighting and on the out for a while now.. and it was then where he started to buy lavish gifts and may even book a trip to hawaii for 5 grand. Is she paying a damn cent? nope..

tell me what's wrong with this picture? lol
 

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You can't buy it. You can reward it for good behavior at times, but thoughtful gifts get you farther than expensive ones.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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christz said:
The debate is strong, that a young girls (age 20-25) affection can be BOUGHT. What's the take on this.. if you have a FB relationship which is pretty much completely on the surface with NO depth.

and yet your trying to make it deeper and its going nowhere.. can you buy a girls affection by taking her on extravagant trips like Hawaii or buying her expensive gifts?

to me this seems like it would backfire in your face and I haven't seen this method work at all on any girl. They just enjoy the ride and freely accept any and all gifts before booting you to the curb. But maybe there's somebody else out there who can add something new to this debate.

my stand is.. if the girl is just sleeping with you and talking to other men, making plans with other men its impossible to buy her love/affection. PERIOD
LOOOL a trip to hawaii? gd! sounds like whoever though of that one needs the wuss beat out of em!!!
 
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